My way of walking: alpha or try hard?



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PostPosted: Sun May 31, 2009 8:50 pm 
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Hi, i'v read the '24 nonverbal cues to estabilish your dominance' thread, and i have a question wich is about the following:

15) Walking only with your legs. Don’t be afraid to move
your torso and arms. Try this: walk as if you’d just had a
massive success and felt on top of the world. Watch what
you do with your body. You may find yourself moving your
arms along with your shoulders and having a slight bounce
in your step. Now, do that all the time.


For a while i was too fixed on the 'straight walking' thing that every one said i was walking too stiff (too straight without motion, people were asking if i wasn't stressed or something).. but then i read this and now i walk with my torso and arms too..
When i walk on the street i definitely feel a difference in how people perceive me, but i have the feeling that sometimes its over the top.

When i walk trough my school's corridors in front of a 2-set for example i don't hear anything and then suddenly i hear them bursting out in laughter right in my back. I'm not sure if it's about me, but it happened like 5 times already, so i don't really think it's coincidence (although it still may be).

Plus i already had about 3 friends staying 'Hey you walk like a really tough guy'

So that's why I think I'm doing something wrong.

What should i do? I mention a positive and a negative change. Positive: On the street more guys walk around me and chicks look more at me when i walk by (IOI/AI?) when I'm swinging with my hands and walking with my head up relaxed , but the negative is that some people think it's awkward to walk like the tough guy that owns the place and eventually laugh.

Should I just ignore the few that laugh and continue walking alpha without giving a shit or walking more like the shy guy ?
And what kind of response should i give to reframe myself when people say 'Haha look at you how tough you walk'-like reactions?

I'm not really affected by them, but if i can make sure that no one finds my walking awkward it's even better.

I'm in high school by the way.

Thanks in advance !


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PostPosted: Sun May 31, 2009 9:07 pm 
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hey man, i think u need to concentrate more on shifting ur attitude. U want to walk like an alpha but u are still concerned about how other people percieve u or if they laugh behind ur back. The alpha trait is that u dont give a damn about what other people think.

So the important thing is to have that attitude.

Abt walking style, Just dont overdo the macho thing in school
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hey man, i think u need to concentrate more on shifting ur attitude. U want to walk like an alpha but u are still concerned about how other people percieve u or if they laugh behind ur back. The alpha trait is that u dont give a damn about what other people think.

So the important thing is to have that attitude.

Abt walking style, Just dont overdo the macho thing in school
:) :)
I don't actually care too much, but after a while i start thinking 'hmm am i doing something wrong?' but not that im ashamed, i always try to have a superior feeling over others, the 'i am way smarter than you'-attitude (without literally saying it lol).

And yeah ill try being more 'average' in school with walking style and just use the alpha walk outside of school.

Thank you :)


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I have seen some people try to walk like their tough, but it makes them seem defensive and not someone you want to be around with. Either because your intimidating or because your just weird and being on the defensive.

I'm going for the relaxed yet strong walk. Basically i'm keeping my shoulders back and my head slightly upwards. How about this, get a friend to video tape yourself when you walk and see how it looks too you. Also get opinions from female family or friends about your walk. I have to do this.


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there is a fine line between confident and try hard ape walk make sure you are on the right side of that line


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I have had a very similar problem, i apparently walk "like i'm ready to kill", Sadly my natural walk is agressive and dominant yet i'm an easy going guy. I'v been trying to walk normally for quite a while but its quite hard, i get people shouting at me and stuff occasionally. I just shrugged it off and lately no one says much, although people think i walk like i'm "ready for action".

Either way just work on it and you'll ease up and be cool and find a natural walk that fits who you are.


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don't concentrate too much on your walking, cause most of the time it just plays with ur head. when you walk, just walk normal but have that energy. girls detect energy easily. whenever you go somewhere, have the mindset that you own the place, that your better than everyone, that your fun, that your cool, with that.. you'll have your walk down.


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The best thing to do is to practice in front of a mirror. :wink:

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I bounce when I walk, its just how I walk. People comment on it all the time, but that doesn't stop me from walking how I walk. Just as long as you don't walk and stare at the floor, walk how you want. As far as your situation, what do your arms do when you walk? If you have them far out from your body while your torso swings back and forth, I can see this as a tough guy walk. Instead, just swing your arms and forget the torso twist.

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people your focusing on the actual art of walking too too much if you feel inside yourself that you are confident and 'alpha' male then that will come across in the way your body language and your behaviour is dont focus on your walk focus on the inside and it will show on the out.

PS i had the exact same problem

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maybe people laugh because your not congruent

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