I have trust and jealousy issues. I used to not be this way while I was picking up chicks, but now that I have my first gf of 6 months, its getting the best of me and I’m back to being an AFC. I have always been an ultra sensitive and emotional guy, but pua has helped me gain a better sense of self-confidence and helped me become more of a man. Now that I’ve been in a relationship for several months, I’m afraid I’m becoming…a pussy

Now I got a big test coming my way because me and my girl are gonna be trying a LDR (just got out of university and are working 5 hours away by car). Now I know that LDRs usually don’t last, but we really love each other so I want to see if we can make it work. It’s just my jealous mind and it puts totally stupid and unfounded images in my mind of her cheating on me, etc (she never cheated on me and even said she would never do it). I can’t help it and its been driving me crazy lately. I don’t want to tell my girl about it because she seems more experienced than me and I don’t want to be seen as needy, which I may be. I think im just insecure, but I have never been like this before. I just get sick thinking about it, maybe its just because I have too much free time to think right now before I find a job…I think I will use some daily affirmations as a start…any other ideas/tips guys??

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same here I think abaut if my girl is cheating on me or flurting araund .But I learn something if u love her and she loves u then that's all it maters. And it's okay bringin the subject with her I did it with my girlfreand and it came out good. That way there is more trust in the relation ship. And hey she don't kno how u feal. Udont kno if she feals the same way and hope this help.

Hey Risen. Let me give you a piece of advice. It took me many years and several relationships to learn one basic rule: "Never ever be jealous." Please, never ever tell your girlfriend anything about your insecure feelings cuz this only puts you down to the submissive role in the relationship. By asking her these questions you mark yourself as the submissve partner over and over again which is never good cuz in general, there is always much bigger chance to be cheated when you are not the dominant one. Plus, no matter what you do or ask your GF, you can never be sure what's going on there - which ofcourse doesn't mean that something is happening. I know it's hard but trust me, get rid of these thoughts. When these are chasing you, have a cold shower, go out with your friends and talk about whatever else except your insecure feelings. Try as hard as you can to kill these thoughts. Never go into her cell phone, email-lbox, drawer. Kill the thoughts. Unsubstaintiated jealousy is the biggest realtionship killer. Unless it's really obvious, never be jealous. Have dignity, don't ever ask her these questions. Your GF will respect you for that.

By these kind of "meditation techniques" I almost killed jealousy in myself and I feel great. Now, jealousy is the last thing I care about in my relationship and it works exellent. I guarantee.

Thank you JimDixon. I just had an "aahaa" as DavidD would say. Its true the doimnant one in the releationship is the least likely to get cheated on - so be the domintant one and doent be jelous. Its going to be much harder to get rid of the jelousy though. But once again thank you so much JimDixon. This helps alot.