How does everyone approach girls online? what i mean is doyou just talk regularly hey wats up and so on
What i do is i neg the target and talk regular so it doesnt seem like im actually tryin for her but only on becoming her friend

what is everyones approach online? advice is always needed

Hi Manda,

here's what I've done. First be prepared to have some good photos of yourself and prepare text for profiles etc. read Styles guide to online sarging and I think David De Angelos stuff. Both very useful.

I haven't used facebook or myspace so I guess it will be a different approach for them.

Sign up or register with online agencies. Most can be done free for some sort of period. Plenty of Fish is free. Don't know much about others. I'm in Switzerland so use Swissfriends (limited free for a week I think ) Set up your profile with minimal info include just 1 pic. In Styles guide he suggests using a scan of a caricature or artists sketch of yourself. I think they have wised up to this and won't allow it. Try anyway.

Do a search for compatible girls and start mailing them using the system. Do not wait to be contacted you very rarely will.

My approach, typically I will neg them in a small way regarding nickname, photo and something in their profile. Don't be too heavy handed as there are real sensitive girls online. I then ask them to qualify themselves through the 3 qualities thing Style mentions.

The aim is to get a reply of interest and steer it so it goes to offline meeting asap. Don't keep it online for too long as you will fall into the friends zone very quickly. Worse than the real friends zone this will stay online only.

Using their reply push for the offline meeting. I think this can be successful if they mention being adventurous. If they have asked for more photos provide them. Essentially focus on keeping your mails short and sweet with always the view to moving it to offline to reality. Use a similar approach to the selfish bastard one Style mentions but tone it down a bit.

Tips.

Good looking girls. Question they are real. Neg their beauty. I typically add a rider to the 3 qualities thing saying they cannot give any physical reasons/qualities.

Anyone who has photos where they are skimpily dressed, always mention that you want to see them wear that when you meet.

If they have a longwinded nickname/username. Don't use it fully and neg them a bit for it

In a way just take the piss...gently.Too much and they won't bother too little and you're the nice guy and that's not exciting for them.

Another thing. Try to move the conversation over quickly to your regular email/chat. I think this can help as people usually are able to access the stuff at work and it's typically more flexible for both of you.

Unfortunately expect a low response rate (Maybe my approach but I have adapted it a few times) Typically only 1 in 3 girls will respond to your initial mail. To me there does not seem to be any particular reason for this. Just accept it. Also accept that you may have a lot of views of your profile but no responses. IMHO girls are very wary of contacting anyone who doesn't have a photo or say anything about themselves. Don't need to put too much effort in it imho (maybe an area for me to look at again)

To summarise. Short and sweet. get it offline asap. Weed out the online friends only types.