(this is happening in Japan, in Tokyo to be precise).

Yesterday I met a women to teach her privately.

I found her attractive so I thought what the heck and I went for it.

I started touching her hand softly and anyway, by the end of the lesson we were pretty much holding hand most of the time and staring at each other in the eyes. She never resisted my touching or moved away. When we were touching hands she would use her other hand to show me something.

I think I had an impact on her as she had trouble focusing and actually, we weren't even really saying anything at some point, it was just body language.

After that we were standing really near to each other, within 6 inches I would think.

After the lesson I said: ''I want to teach more.'' I then asked her if we could go somewhere else to continue our lesson.

She said no, that it was too late. She said that she would meet another teacher and let me know of her decision.

We were discussing where she was living and she said she had a house with a family.

I was a bit shocked because she looked young enough and I never imagined she would have a family.

I don't know if she's still married, I didn't ask.

Anyway, I'm wondering about something and would the ''expert's'' advice.

What would be the most skillful way of dealing with this? I think she might feel remorse after touching each other while having a family.

If she is married, I guess there's no point in pursuing this any further, if only out of respect for her husband.

But I would like to meet her agian to see this through so to speak. I mean, if she's not married, I could certainly use the sex just about now. Feels like my balls are about to burst.

I want to invite her over but I wondering what's the best formulation.

I'm wondering if I should ask or just kind of give her the choice of a time, to reduce hesitation so to speak.

Well, I don't want to coffee or tea, that would be going against the logistics of getting to sex.

So, if it were you guys, how would you formulate your request:

''I want to meet with you on Friday.''

''Would you meet with me on Friday.''

''How about we meet on Friday.''

I feel like I have to take the lead so to speak, I don't know if you know what I mean.

Besides, should I wait, contact her right away.. what?

"meet me on friday, ~ followed by a reason why she needs to come over. Like "i've got this new dvd set and you need to come check it out, it's awesome."

Contact her whenever it pleases you.

As for the marriage thing, you're not even sure she has a husband so you're still good to go.

Ok I sent the email above. How's that?