My girlfriend and I have been togearther for a few months now...every thing was amazing at the start but the last 3 weeks have been hell! she gets mad at me for no reason and always finds a way to blame me...we got in a big fight tonight and instead of trying to fight with her and be the "alpha" I came out and just told her Im sorry for what ever it is she thinks I did and that I want to make it better...she then got really mad! and told me I was being to nice????? yeah I know, I know classic pua mistake....I just shook my head and stoped talking to her.

She ended up storming out of my house and said she wanted to talk about it tomorow. I think I love her (the her before she turned crazy!) but I cant take this any more...I cant be with somone who treats me like this and then blames me for it???? but I care about her so fuckin much! Iduno wtf to do? im a mess right now because I think I know what needs to be done....

What do I say to her?

Wait for a little bit longer. If thing stays the same, no other way then breakup. Trust me. I just got out of a 4 yrs relationship

I cant wait any more bro...honestly im tired of this and Im tired of puting her need before mine. A relationship is 50/50 and she has been treating me like shit...I care about her, I love her, but I cant live my life on egg shells. I have done all that I can do and after last night when she said "your to nice" I realized that I have done all I can do and I think I need to stand up and give her an ultimatum? I think Im just going to tell her that I cant do this any more if this is that way its always going to be, and that I dont feel like she is respecting me....

I need some help with what to say to her cuz Im tired of this.

Here's a crazy idea: try telling her what you told us in your post.

Communication is one of the most important cornerstones of any relationship, and it sounds like you've got a lot of things you'd like to say but haven't yet. Put it all out there, man.

Worst case scenario: it changes nothing except you feel better since you finally got all this shit off your chest.

Your boy,
870

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Exactly. Communication is key and you just need to be straight forward with her.
...meaning she will keep blaming things on you because she can and you are just bending over and taking it. You need to make sure that she understands that a relationship consists of two people who communicate. Once you communicate to her what you told us, give her a chance to respond because she may have a "reason" for it that you need to hear.

I was once with a girl who did the very same thing. She would blow up over the smallest of things and somehow it would always be my fault. I never got mad at her or "fought" back (unfortunately I wasn't how I am now)... in fact I would just smile and blow it off and THAT made it 100 times worse. I wish I would have handled it differently back then (nearly 2 years ago) but either way I would have broken up with her haha.

Tell her this: One of two things will happen

One she gets pissed an Fucks off in which case you win as I am sure you do not want to live life being disrespected and be her bitch (it will only get worse)

or two she realizes her mistake cleans up her act and everyone is happy
again you win.

Thanks guys so far the advice is great!

Im going to tell her how I feel but I have a problem! she has not yet called me back or txt....she is ignoring me so im not really sure what to do other then to wait???? It seems very disrespectful.

2 days and she has not called, text, or even tried to talk to me. How fucked is that?

What do you think the odds are she is sitting at home right now hoping you'll call just as much as you're hoping she'll call?

Be a man. Initiate contact. Resolve this shit. If necessary, move on.

Your boy,
870

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I want to talk to her but I also dont want to make it clear that I am not happy she is ignoring me, and also the way she has been acting is not cool....but I have a feeling this will just start another fight?

Move on. You fucked this one up, don't do it next time. The reason she started the drama sounds like you weren't dominant enough and/or she doesn't trust you to be lead in the relationship. As a man, its your burden to be dominant and it sounds like the fight started as you were showing so sort of submissive tendencies. She tested you, you flunked.... game over.

I know the pain hurts. Use that pain, find another girl and never forget (or do it again).

I am being harsh, but doing it to help.

I agree is it over...I broke it off tonight. we talked and she didnt agree with me and ignored me agian so I left a msg telling her its over im fuckin done with all her crap and that I wont be txting or calling her....your 100% right! can you treat a women to well???? YES...yes you can and this should be a lesson to every man out there that even the ones you love can turn ther backs on you.

Honesty fuck women...you fall in love and this is what it does to you. Im not gunna say every women is scum but 99.99% of them are fucked....they want to play head games and they like being treated like shit. Im fuckin bitter as you can tell but hey you live you learn.

This new attitude of yours is neither healthy nor productive. 99% of women are not scum, and love does not turn you into a whiny little bitch (unless you let it).

If you change as a result of being in a relationship, then you have no one else to blame when the relationship itself changes as a result. I guarantee if you do some serious soul-searching on this you'll find the reasons you did things you did weren't because you were "in love" or "really cared about her."

You acted out of a fear of losing her and a desire to avoid conflict/bad feelings. The outcome of this was a product of those mindsets, not her or even the general concept of love.

That's the lesson you should be taking away from this.

Your boy,
870

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I agree man...I was mad so I said shit that I dont even beleve. I broke up with her and we are going to talk tonight...honestly she just told me she didnt feel like she could talk to me before because she thought I would just yell at her and I dont want to be that guy. Its funnt cuz my one budy told me that your not in a relationship until you get in your first big fight haha then the true colors come out....its true.