In the past few days I seem to have hit a lull in my life. I just turned 20 the other day and the landmark birthday has caused me to reflect long and hard on my life. I ventured into the PUArts about 1 1/2 years ago now and since then Ive learned alot, and gained lots of experience. Ive gained alot of self-confidence and gained quite abit of experience, yet the fact still remains that Im a virgin. Before I learned about PUA I had 3 different K-Closes to my name, and post-PUA start Ive earned 3 more different K-closes. Alot of you may think that, thats good progress but Im disappointed in myself because I havent accomplished any of the goals I set out to do when I got into this stuff like getting laid, getting a girlfriend, or just coming close to either of this things.

As Im typing right now I know that as an aspiring PUA this is the last thing I should do. The one key thing that Ive learnt since I got into this stuff is that sulking is not the answer to my problems. And although it seems like Im doing so, Im not. Right now Im just in need of some help and this is the one place I know I might be able to find some.

Im just having trouble dealing with all the failures Ive experienced in the last year and a half. Whenever it seems like Im finally getting somewhere with my game, something happens which brings me right back to square one. Most recently Ive been cockblocked the last two times Ive been out. The first cockblock (fr12-what-a-night-vt45363.html) I felt like I was finally getting over the slump, but yet I again it wasnt meant to happen.

Anyways, I just felt the need to vent and this is the only place I have to do so. Any piece of advice or inspiration any of you could give me Id appreciate greatly. Its funny because although I think I know the type of answers Ill get, I think it'll help me alot more hearing it from someone else.

I just turned 20 as well and have the same score as you. I guess that could be inspirational that you're not so different from the rest.

The more you hook up, the more you hook up, so we need to put ourselves out there more, be in more target rich enviroments and be in the zone all the time... well whenever we can. A great sex life starts with eliminating virgin status, and that's one of my goals for this summer, why not make it yours too.

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Well my advice to you is to consider the fact that on some level you may be sabotaging yourself. I remember when I was younger, one of my problems was that I had a great deal of guilt associated with sex, and that I didn't believe that I deserved to be having sex with the type of women I was attracted to. So what would happen to me was that I would build up attraction within women, k-close sometimes, but when it got to the point where it needed to turn sexual, the guilt would kick in. This guilt would usually stopped me from following though on what I needed to do to get the girl in bed. Once I was getting sexual pleasure from a woman (Basically anything more than K-closing), I would tense up, not take things further, and kill the mood.

It sounds like you've had opportunities to sleep with women, but you've let things get in the way. Realize that you are in charge of your own life. If you really wanted to sleep with those women, you would have found some way of making it happen. You would have gotten a number and met them another time, you would have dismissed whatever got in your way and not let minor setbacks prevent you from getting laid. You would have moved heaven and earth if you really wanted to get laid.

But I'm assuming you are like I used to be. You feel guilty about taking control and making the sex happen. You somehow hope the women will take over at some point and everything will happen without any effort on your part. You want the sex to happen to you, not by you. But, that's not going to happen. If you want to get laid, you have to make it happen, it takes action.

Kalel makes some great points. Also reading your post it seems that your looking way too much into the past, its the past. Don't let it dictate your future an get you down. Things will change in life as change is the only constant in life, you just got to make it happen and keep evolving as a PUA and a person.

You seem to know what is holding back as you have recognised where your going wrong after evaluating your 'failures'. Don't look at them as failures but as lessons and use them to become better.

Exact same situation here, cept I went from 0 k-closes to 4. Are you in college? I'm having a hard time with this kind of game.

I dont know man, being a virgin at 20.. thats.. lame ..
but cheer up, you got 80 years more ahead of you, and think of mystery..the master pick up arist who was a virgin untill 21.

If your game is improving, keep at it. Inch by inch. Before you know it, your goal of getting laid will be just another thing that you wished and when it happened, it wasnt so special anyway.. although I think youre gonna like pussy.. a lot

Anyway, one key ingredient you have to have to score with chicks. And thats PERSISTANCE.

Hell, If I wouldnt be persistent with my girls, I would probably be still a vrigrin.

You know what Im talking about.. the "O I dont need her pussy anyway I`ll just jerk off infront of porn."

Ride that baby and dont stop. Unless offcourse, she says so.. in that case.. c`mon?

So basicly, PERSISTANCE is the key to everything. In every success, you need persistance.

Watch al pacino in his speech. Try to find what I just told you in his words.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_iKg7nutNY[/youtube]

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I know that feeling... everyman should! and it can really mess with your head IF YOU LET IT! To cut a long story short you need to control your emotions when this happens and brush off any rejection. Of course the only way to get good at that is to be persistent with your approaches whilst holding tightly to your positive thoughts. Would a true pimp let his feelings be dictated by one women rejecting him?

One thing I found that helps is the "one step closer to victory" mentality, basically you think to yourself "OK she was a bitch, but I am one bitch closer to meeting a decent girl" after all there must be at least one girl in the entire club/room/party that likes you and is not a bitch? on a bad night there might only be one but don't let that discourage you push through and take what you want.

Keep your head up man and may I wish you the best success in the future.

about failure, try to experience this mindset by Ross Jeffries:

"I either get what I want, or I get what I need to know to get what I want."

In every experience you can learn something from it. always ask yourself when you are sinking into emotions, "what did I learn from this experience?"

Or dont worry so much about getting laid seeing if you do, you're gonna come off as being fucking desperate and girls dont go for that.....just dont worry about it and enjoy life =D