Hi,

went out Friday and Saturday.

Friday it just wasn´t happening. There were loads of people but I just felt scared and was on my own. Got loads of looks but just felt like the AFC stuck in the corner.

Saturday went to a different spot. I bumped into a bunch of guys who were not into pick up but were certainly into girls. we had a great time. I did a few warm up approaches and was fine.

I opened more sets on Saturday night than in the past two months.

I am going to the bar with one of the guys and suddenly he introduces me to a random girl, who I assume he actually knows. I realise that he doesn´t but what the hell. I start gaming and get doing the thumb fights and tellinng her a little about me by way of DHV.

She came back a few times. asking questions about where i worked and laughed at my jokes and we were dancing all the time.

I went to put my hands around her waist and ooops felt her hands slowly removing mine.

continued dancing a bit and then tried to do it again. and once again she removed my hands. see the buddes making funny hand signs at me and she sees them so she is aware of what is going on and that I am up for a fast deal.

some afcs came over and so i ejected feeling like she was not reciprocating properly.
so just before we leave I try one more ditch attempt to get a number. SHIT, my phone battery has gone and either way, she doesn´t give it. i can barely hear her over the fucking music. shit!!!

So, i piss off with my balls in a sling. Yet in all the night after loads of approaches i only got one slightly sarcastic or negative response. everybody else was cool with me because they saw i was ok and had my shit together.

What did I get out of this?
1. next time. I will go back to the dance floor and just stand there doing my thing. it is better being there than standing at the bar with beer in hand. either way the dance floor is pretty small so everybody is really packed in and it is nice.

2. I must get IOIs or some signs of interest before I put my hands around her waist or try to hit on her. I do the female to male interest first before I go for it.

3. Being simply a social person and talking to randoms in the club is good. It means that when you talk to that hot babe it is not such a big deal.

4. The most important of all- fear is part of the game. I do approaches with the fear and it is just the way it is. I am not going to make it magically disappear and it does´n`t matter as long as it doesnt prevent me from doing what i want to do.

P.S. fuck . was green with envy. there was this guy. about 20. he had this hb10 eating out of the palm of his hand, grinding him and then turned around dirty dancing style and started shaking her ass, pressing it from side to side around his waist. he just went with the flow. seemed so laid back and didn´t seem to be even trying. god knows what was his secert. because he was no leonardo dicaprio if you kow what i mean. fucking eh!!! well you live and learn.

all in all, what a difference!!! I can do it!!! I can go for it!! I feel so good about myself and even though I ddin´t get laid what the heck. i had a great time!!

nice one at least you are making things happen and rejection can only be seen as advice on how to do better. you could have showed your hand for a compliance test and and if she complies give her a twirl instead of putting your hands straight onto her waist. It would at least show her that your are fun and your main objective wasn't to get in her pants. then escalade onto moving your hands on her waist you have to escalate it.

Yo!!!

Today was the last day of school for summer, at a school where I have been working.

So, lets cut to the chase.

There is this hot chick who I see who comes on the bus with the kids. She is hb7
anyway, I have said hi a few times but today thought what the fuck. I knew today was the last day of class so I started talking to her. She was OK, I made a bit of conversation. got her name, and a bit of fluff talk but I noticed that when i was going to go for the close, i felt awkward like I was going to blow the great vibe we had had. She seemed a little bit nervous bit like she was going with it and all and seemed quite taken in and pleased at this unexpected chit chat.

So, i eject and at the end of class i go to take the kids to the bus and there she is walking my way. I get a bit of paper and scribble my number on it and with a big smile on my face, say, hey "have agood summer" (we wont be seeing each other until october.) she says thanks and then i say, hey here is my number, maybe we could hang out sometime"

she smiles and says ok looking a bit awkward and takes the paper.

so, i go and then have to bring a child back down to the bus. she sees me and is talking to a friend and kinda cowers away, definitely not ok. but hey, what the hell,

1. i struck up conversation with her. she really is a complete stranger. so that is cool and she seemed genuinely OK with it.
2. I tried to go for the close but surely blew it. What the fuck! I had a go! I feel really pleased with myself.

of course, it is not the same as getting a text message back from her in an hour but these are all learning experiences.
next time, i will work on my closing so it feels more comfortable.