There's a girl I'm really into right now. We've just been on a 11 day road trip which was great fun although we didn't get intimate. I told her one night I was frustrated because I wanted to kiss her and she said there was another guy she'd just met so it didn't happen. That was probably AFC of me but hey, I think if I had made the right moves it would have happened.
We planned the road trip to coincide with my birthday at the end. Arranged to meet her in a club but she didn't want to pay the $10 to get in which pissed me off. I was pretty drunk that night though which didn't help matters.

I want her really badly. When we first met I approached her on a bench by the sea. She later talked about travelling several countries together and hanging out back home but I seem to have screwed things up, maybe by being too nice or predictable.

Should I tell her my feelings for her or is this AFC and likely to scare her away? any other advice? cheers

You got oneitis and you AFCed the whole thing. I say chalk it up to a loss and learn from it.

I'm meeting her for coffee soon. I did cancel our first arrangement. Is there anything I can do before I throw in the towel?

Well, if you already told her you are into her and she still said no and you didn't hook up at all during the entire road trip, she's probably not into you right now.

You have to somehow raise your status in her eyes which ain't gonna happen over coffee. Make sure you leave ealier than expected and say your going out on a date. If she thinks you're already over her, that might help.

A similar thing happend to me a few months ago & I didnt get the girl because I did exactly what u did.. AFC'd it. It sounds like oneitis, and we all know the cure for that.

I agree w/ alisterio also, all is not lost but u are gonna need to raise ur status & make her think u've moved on. Also dont stop sarging other chicks either, i didnt try get w/ any other chicks during my oneitis & ended up regretting it.

Unfortunately I didn't get to read this before I met her for the coffee but this is how it went:

Both of us weren't in great moods because I was ill and she was tired. She bought my drink and even asked if I wanted anything else, but I guess she felt bad for the other night. I dressed up for the occasion with smart shoes and shirt which I think surprised her. I did actually leave earlier than she would have expected. Unfortunately when she asked what I was doing later on, because I wasn't with it I just said some work at home. She mentioned some voluntary work we might do together and how she's pretty bored at the place she's staying right now.

Yes, I'm hoping to do some more sarging soon. This is how I met this girl anyway and I'll be travelling Argentina in a week so I don't know why I'm bothered.

oh yeah, I didn't exactly tell her I was into her, I told her I really want to kiss her. I could think of any kiss closes so I just told her. So if anyone has any good links for that, awesome!

You've got a bad case of One-Itis. Also, fuck you're overthinking this man! "I couldn't think of any kiss closes" no dude fuck that, just look her in the eyes and go for the kiss. The community programming can kill game sometimes, you're overcomplicating some of the simplest things to do. You don't need a fucking routine or a "kiss close" tactic. Just fucking go for it. Good luck next time.

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yeah this is the best advice I've had for a while, I'm kicking myself now because I had my chances. A couple of times as we watched the sun set she closed her eyes and I should have just jumped in! aagggghhhhh!!

Ok you can probably cure your oneitis if you stop talking to her now and wait until after Argentina. I would reccomend not thinking about her at all, that way when you do finally talk to her again your game will be more natural.. hopefully.

I would say do some sarging when you get back from Argentina and then if you decide talk to her again. Better yet, get her to see you somehow hope that she recognizes you and gives the "I know you look" and you act like you don't even know her. If you haven't talked to her in 2-3 weeks you will almost no doubt get good reactions.

Well she has just left on her merry way without saying goodbye in person and I'm off to Argentina in a couple of days.

Her last text was "Goodbye! I wish u all the best 4 the future and Argentina! See u maybe in Europe one day?! Take care!"

So I'm thinking my options are:

1. Ignore the text and start sarging girls in Argentina
2. Ignore the text, sarg girls and contact her in a few months because I'll be away for a while
3. (Please don't laugh too much!) Reply to the text and tell her how much I've fallen for her and will be the happiest man alive to meet up with her again
4. Reply to the text and say how disappointed I was to not say goodbye to her in person and how she needs to respect people more
5. Something else...

Oooooh just as I finish writing this she sends me another text! The plot thickens. Explaining she didn't know my exact plans blah blah blah!! Anyway I still want her but maybe not for a while when she's grown up a bit cos she's only 20.

Well she has just left on her merry way without saying goodbye in person and I'm off to Argentina in a couple of days.

Her last text was "Goodbye! I wish u all the best 4 the future and Argentina! See u maybe in Europe one day?! Take care!"

So I'm thinking my options are:

1. Ignore the text and start sarging girls in Argentina
2. Ignore the text, sarg girls and contact her in a few months because I'll be away for a while
3. (Please don't laugh too much!) Reply to the text and tell her how much I've fallen for her and will be the happiest man alive to meet up with her again
4. Reply to the text and say how disappointed I was to not say goodbye to her in person and how she needs to respect people more
5. Something else...

Oooooh just as I finish writing this she sends me another text! The plot thickens. Explaining she didn't know my exact plans blah blah blah!! Anyway I still want her but maybe not for a while when she's grown up a bit cos she's only 20.

Oh and what exactly does sarg stand for? Is it Start Approaching Random Girls? or something else

I cant really help you with ur one-itis but:
My understanding of sarging is going out and running game/meeting new people/getting girls
The name was made up by (some PUA mentioned in "the Game") i think he said it might have been named after the guys cat or something.. lol?

Gl, i think option 1-2 is defs the best