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Yeah, that is the wrong way to think of her. Definitely do not think about how good she looks when you're talking to her. Treat her like any girl. In fact, treat her like you're talking to a guy, like it's nothing special. You can even call her "dude." Just relax and enjoy yourself. What you should focus on is not how attractive she is, but on how attractive YOU ARE. Instead of thinking "damn she's hot," you should be thinking "Damn I'M hot." Also you should be qualifying her in your mind. You should have the attitude that you're checking her out to see if she's worthy of you. And this is a really major key: you have to believe that you're the prize, not her. You should be looking at her like you're wondering if she is qualified to get with you. Don't let her see you acting like "oh my god she's so awesome." Girls are attracted to guys who are higher value/status than them. So that's why it's so important you don't act like she is higher value/status than you. Because then she won't be attracted to you. Using cocky/funny humor to tease her is another way of showing higher status. If you act like she's really awesome, then you're communicating that you're beneath her. In fact, on your list of your life's priorities, she should be #4 on the list. 1, 2, and 3 should be things that you are passionate about other than chicks. And you should be concerned with putting a smile on your own face and making yourself happy FIRST, not pleasing and accomodating any girls.
Also, your demeanor in your approaches should be that you're relaxed, fun, and enjoying yourself. Do not try to impress the girl at all. Just be fun. Focus on her and let her talk about herself.
I know what I said is easier said than done, but now you know what to shoot for.
I recommend you read Swinggcat's ebook.
And listen to all the 60 interviews in David DeAngelo's Interviews with Dating Gurus.
Have you had any luck with your approaches?
Whoa....what the fuck?
Acting like she's a 'dude' isn't going to work..lol. She's going to think you're gay.
It all depends on what your aim is. You have to learn to calibrate. Be universal. Yeah, some girls like the cocky/funny shit, but some are more serious. You aren't going to bang some horny, overly sexual corporate executive acting like a dickhole. If your aim is to have sex with her, you want to be sexual. Women will catch on to our games as fast as we learn them.
So, quit with the games. Women Love men who know what they want. Period. If you know you want her, and you come off in a non-stalkerish, unique, 'I want you but I don't need you' way, she will comply. If you come off with a 'I want to show you why you should like me' way, she's going to see through you like scotch tape. You, my friend, will be every other guy who has tried to impress her by being cocky/funny. Boooo.
Innovate. 1/3 guys have used at least a few of the techniques the Seduction Community praises. It's time to evolve to a new being. One who can make the most complex techniques roll off of his tongue and make the most garbage techniques golden to the touch.
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