Ive read a few places here to "stop masturbating". Why is this? I masturbate on average once a day, is there a reason to masturbate less?

experiment and find out yourself.

ive found masterbating to cause me to: (once a day)
be physically and mentally relaxed (maybe too much)
act a bit desprate
constantly think about having sex
realive stress (which is important)

ive found not masturbating to make me: (once a fortnight)
constantly want sex
give me the balls to say stuff i wouldent otherwise (which usualy turns out good)
more aggressive and competitive
mind constantly buzzing
faster reactions

theres probably tons more i could put on each side but when you look at the whole picture not masturbating is slightly better but its diffiult

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From a scientific point of view masturbation is totally ok and even healthy. Its all about how you frame the activity and what values you give it. And of course there's always too much of a good thing.

I'm willing to share some of my experiences to demonstrate how I learned to make it work to my advantage.

If you feel guily about masturbating it will affect your mood and all your interactions with others. I can remember times I used to promise myself I wouldn't do it for a week, it happened too soon and I couldn't look anyone in the face all day cuz I felt ashamed.

Flashback a few years earlier I would fap like 6 times a day in high school. I didn't really care cus I never thought I would get laid. In addition to the negative psychological effects coming from this perspective, all that masturbating gave me a low energy heart rate and I would get out of breath running a short distance. No wonder my cross country race time slowed down 2 minutes from freshman to sophomore year.

Now let me introduce my present frame and practice of masturbation: It is no longer a way to lust after something I can't have; it is preparation for what I have yet to experience with a woman. I never feel the need to do it, I don't look forward to it and I never plan on it, and I'm comfortable enough with myself that I don't need to try to stop it... it just happens naturally. Its not a coping mechanism for my lack of sex; its something I do to replenish my man juice and boost my sexual energy and sexual confidence.

On average 2-3 times a week, with the occasional double play or taking a week off. I try all different positions and techniques, often using a ghetto condom and simulating sex rather than just touching myself in front of the computer/showerhead.

You have to sort of get a feel for it yourself but if you're eating healthy andf haven't laid in a while you can sense when its advantageous to masturbate to increase your life energy. When I go out or go to sleep afterwards it feels like I just had sex. Even though I'm still a virgin the subconscious mind doesn't differentiate between f***ing and faping. And I let it take over.

Reason why the community discourages it is why fap when you can f***? Cus with the wrong mindset it will kill your motivation to go for a !close if you masturbated recently or you feel like you could always just go home and fap to porn if you don't get laid.
2 other common arguments are if your hands do most of the work you will be more accustomed to playing a flute than poking a cat, and of course the logic that in the time spent on one masturbation you could literally meet a new bedbuddy.

On an interesting note Neil Strauss wrote that he's faped or f***ed at least once a day as long as he can remember: In <i>Rules of the Game</i> he tried an experiment where he goes 10 days without ejaculating. It fails: resulting in useless public masturbation.

When we met Neil Strauss at Borders a random person in the audience asked if its better to masturbate before you go on a day2 or wait until afterwards if you still need to. He had us vote on it: The majority and I recommended not masturbating close to day2s. It makes sense cuz you save the (maximum potential orgasm of the day) for the real performance. Id even say at least 2 days b4 a day 2 start conserving. This wouldn't apply if your already !buddies and would do it every day if you happen upon it.

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I'm not sure people say to stop completely, just to really slow it down. I believe in the mystery method it says to limit it to once a week.

But when you really think about it when you don't masturbate it will make you want sexual gratification more and it will make you want to meet woman. Plus if you masturbate too often your sexual performance will go down.

I suppose the ideal PUA doesn't even need it, they can get plenty from other sources if you know what I mean

A while back I didn't do anything sexual for a long time (I was religious), like months (it was tough!) but I felt good about myself; like woman didn't have control over me. Plus I wanted to interact with woman WAY more

But seriously its pretty tough if your not getting it from any where else, just try not to do it all the time. Real physical intimacy is way more fulfilling then just imagining it. Thats what it really comes down to

Ok with all due respect to all the replies posted so far (and I do acknowledge everyone is different and therefore react differently) I will add some perspective from my background in the martial arts....

Don't masturbate. Instead, go for what's called "sexual transmutation". You basically sit down and "draw up" any surplus sexual energy build-up into an area three inches below your navel. This has been a secret for great physical strength and performance as understood by many martial artists and internal alchemists (which does lead to much more enhanced sex by the way). This will involve getting relax and using "Will" - with visualization - to do that.

I understand that modern science says it's perfectly fine but the reality is modern science is inconsistent on a whole bunch of things. On the one hand it's "okay", but on the other hand ejaculation leads to loss of some vital neurotransmitters like acetylecholine which then affect both size and quality of erection. And then you wonder why the libido enhancement industry is a multi-million dollar a month biz.

Your body spends a LOT of nutrients to create your semen and most people don't replenish enough. Sure not much will happen (aside from an increase in DHT in the body including the scalp *hint hint*) when one masturbates in youth, but believe me the effects WILL catch up with you as you grow older. So if you value your youth into old age then think of quitting it altogether gradually, learn sexual transmutation, and also if you've been doing it for years then look at nourishing your "Jing" (sexual essence) that you've depleted over the years. You will be the better person. a good ebook on sexual nutrition is Riccardo Gueli's "the secret potency report" if you care to google it.

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Take a banana, fresh one think yellow with green on the ends no brown spots or soft skin. Peel the banana, try to keep the end intact not ripping it eat the banana take the peel put it in the microwave for about 20 seconds take it out make sure its not to hard or mushy put on a condom (safe sex ) also make sure its not too hot caution burning your pud is no fun. Slap that bady boy on and see how long you can last if your going to beat off so infrequently make it worth your while and simulate sex or at lest poonany. A bonus youll get your vitamins