Hi,
It feels very embarrassing to write this but I want to do it. I am here to learn and pick up useful stuff on “pick up” so hopefully with your help I will “succeed” . And in the end my lack of doing the approaches is really the only thing that is stopping me. I know the solution. I know that I should just do it but my inner game is totally fked. (trying to fix it watching hypnotica every night) I just lack confidence.
This past week, I’d say that I have been on a high. I have been feeling much more sociable, doing the newbie kind of thing, to say hi to babes on the street and generally feeling quite good about myself. Felt that finally I was on the verge of a breakthrough. Learning loads of new stuff about day game too.
Last night, after such a good week, I thought that I would naturally be doing more approaches than ever before and probably kiss closing if not number closing. I also assumed that my game has to improve anyway due to the time factor.
Went to buy some new clothes, really took time on my appearance and left last night feeling ready as I’d ever been.
Anyway, before you guys press the button for next post, I will fast forward.
In the first bar, it was really stale. Ended up talking to this guy, just to not look like I was out on my own. Left the bar and went to the usual spot where it is usually really happening, well, where there are more people anyway.
Arrived and it was quiet, saw one or two usual faces and yet I felt tired. Over here in Spain, they go out so fucking late. I mean the party didn’t hot up till 3 in the morning. I don’t know if it just wasn’t my lucky night but I just felt weird all night.

I saw babes dancing around me who seemed nice and got some eye fucks here and there. I saw the babes but after the last three months of study I just don’t have a clue still what to say.I refuse to quit. I have been out “sarging” if that is what you can call my 8 nights out . I feel like a total loser. I wanted last night to be this amazing pick up artist but without having to do any of the work. It was pure laziness on my part and fear. I did one lousy approach, that even the drunk at the end of the bar could have done better. I won’t even mention the sad details.
Now I have to face the hard reality that if I continue like I am, I will never get with one, never mind loads. Maybe I am thinking that just by reading stuff on pick up I am going to become automatically this amazing PUA.

Is there anyone out there who went out with all the motivation in the world and then got there and just sat there terrified cos that is how I felt.

Any comments and suggestions would be appreciated guys. It is hard for me to believe right now that there could be anyone more AFC than yours truly.

Thanks in advance.

The problem is in ur head. I think mission could help u. Six months ago i was loser like u But mission's helped me

First mission (it will be shock therapy- i think u need it)
Go to the petrol station and ask for rocket petrol to ur Space Ship. Dont think "i must say it and get fuck out from here". You can talk and talk, for example:
-Hello have u got any rocket petrol ?
-Because my space ship's tank (tank is box for petrol i guess ) is empty, and there to many people now on mars !
-This planet sucks, i can't even buy rocket petrol !

Some people from this forum may think that i'm insane, but this mission appear's that it doese not matter what u say and what they think about u ! They're only society zombies ! U can do evrything.



Then write in this topic report from mission, and they i'll give u second mission. (ofkoz if u want )

P.s- And stop reading theory, be natural !

Loveryboy, i get where you are coming from, that I have to remove my fear of what other people are thinking and all, and

No offence, but I have to decline the mission. I am 38 and I just would feel like I crazy person talking to the guy in the petrol station about rocket fuel and little green guys from mars.

I need rocket fuel for my game that is all.

Thanks for the reply. and looking on the field reports further down, I am not alone in my lack of approaches, maybe after all it was just last night I didnt motivate myself properly.
My self esteem was not so hot.
I didn't properly vibe myself up.
I didn't take failure as a possibility and still try. I just was trying to protect myself and not feeling up to par.

Next time, I will do better. or I won't write any more field reports. because nothign sucks more than a field report that says you did fuck all.
it is a waste of everybodys time. mine included.
Bottom line. I have all the information, advice, tips, books, suggestions and game plans I need, now what I have to find is a trigger to get into fucking action and do something about it.

Anyone see the Aliens movie where Ripley asks the captain in command how many combats he'd been in? and his reply is 38.... simulations. I am like that. I have visualised it loads of times but in reality practised hardly at all. I want to make action my middle name instead of that last word in my vocabulary.

Dude. You are working on it.
Until you're one of those top 10% of guys, you will, fuck.....you're lucky if you're fucking 1 of every 10 girls you meet. I sarged every night for 3 weeks and had 2 take homes and 1 that just wasn't cute enough, read that: I wasn't drunk enough to settle for.....but total, that was probably out of no less than, honestly, 30-40 chicks I'd opened and a TON of sets: I'm talking 3-5 sets a night for 3 WEEKS STRAIGHT. And I'm not a bad looking guy. You're abroad, with different social customs, different language et cetera. Be glad that you have the balls to sarge. Eventually, you will set aside your nervousness and the endless sets will be just humorous stories.

Ever seen "Boiler Room"?
"It's a contact sport. The more you contact, the more you score." Especially earlier on while you're building up your toolbox and what will eventually become "your" version of game.

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Just keep at it man. It can be frustrating and painful, I know, but you just gotta keep going. If you have a crappy night of sarging, it's fine to think about what mistakes you may have made, so that you can do better the next time, but dwelling on them and thinking that you're a loser because you aren't f-closing left and right is ridiculous, and it'll kill your self confidence.

It sounds like your biggest issue is approach anxiety due to lack of confidence. If you're over the 'newbie games' as you put it, you could try practicing your approaches and speaking to women in a bar setting simply by talking to ones you aren't attracted to. Have you ever noticed that girls you aren't attracted to are often attracted to you? Well in my experience that is because in the past I treated them differently than I would treat an HB I was interested in, and because of that I had no game! I'm more myself around a girl that I'm not attracted to because I don't care what she thinks, and that's how you have to act around an HB if you want to pique her interest.

Also, quit apologizing to us about how you think your post is boring/a waste of time/whatever. If we're not interested, we won't read it and won't respond. Simple as that, and it's the same with women. If you're trying to pick up women with the same tone and attitude as is in your posts, then they won't respond. You have nothing to apologize for or be ashamed about in front of us OR them. Go in with that mentality, be yourself, and they'll either like you or they won't. If they do, then great, if not, then who cares, just move on to the next.

Hopefully some of this was helpful to you. You're definitely not alone out there brother, a lot of these guys make this whole process sound easy. It isn't easy for all of us, but as in everything, practice makes perfect.

Hey!!!

Thanks guys. These posts are really helping me.

Just doing the approaches or simply getting into the field ups your chances of success. You can´t be the life of the party every night you go out anyway

Yeah, putting off the approaches is the one thing that I want to overcome. Putting it off is what I do habitually. My mind finds great reasons why I just really and honestly and truly cannot and never should approach and the feelings that accompany the thoughts seem to put me off too. Everythign in my head seems to be shouting "dont fucking do it, you will be putting a gun to your head" and of course after a chicken out, I feel a massive relief and i run contentedly back home to study seduction in the safe comfort of my four walls.
My goal is to do it regardless of how badly and terribly it goes but to consider it as a success merely if I did the approach.

Anyway, I want to keep going because this week I have found myself two hundred percent better

What did I learn from my night out last Saturday? I can´t expect ever the results to just take care of themselves. I must work at this and I am working at it and have a goal.

Now I can see that the girl I am talking to isn´t the only babe in the world, and that there are loads of babes everywhere I can really develop my confidence and find myself being strong enough to just be me and feel OK.

and loved this friend,
thanks guys. and happy sarging at this weekend!!!

don't worry about the outcome at all, if she blows you out ideal, if you fuck up that good, literally any outcome is positive. Also don't worry about getting any results such as phone numbers etc in the long run teh results will just start coming

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Your post is actually making me feel motivated Mr. E. I have exactly the same problem where I just can't approach. It is a total bitch and really ruins your game. You have all this stuff in your head and you read everything you need to know, but once you actually get out there and no matter how prepared you are, YOU ARE STOPPED. By what? Yourself.

I have been stopped by myself over and over again. I go out and I don't do anything. I see the people around me and the continue with their lives while i'm stuck in this one point in time. I think if only we lived near each other we'd be able to help each other out a lot by winging with each other for the sole fact of just approaching girls.

I went out with two people from my area and they did so great approaching chicks. It seemed so easy and smooth while I would just fumbled. It is like this internal switch inside you won't turn on. That switch that will let you approach a beautiful woman on the street. I think that we have to disconnect ourselves from these people to actually approach them.

These two people I went out with that were good with girls are non-reactive to the world around them. They do what they want when they want and what that is, is to have fun. So what me and you have to do Mr. E. is see these people as not people but as experiments. Experiments that are critical to our progression. We need to just open up girls starting with the lone wolves. When we see that girl we need to walk no matter what your mind says. Scramble your brain when it talks to you. Just do it. Do not think. Start walking in their direction and while your talking to yourself saying, "What am I doing?" "What do I say?" just walk up to them and muster as much confidence as you can from the spot and just say "Hey!" with a smile.

What I will do after this point is go direct since I do only day game.

So I will do this tomorrow when my day is free and screw this approach anxiety to hell!

So everytime I have problems approaching women, you know what i'm going to do Mr. E? I'm going to read your post. I'm going to read your post because I feel sorry for you and think its pathetic. So if I think this post is sorry and is pathetic, therefore I am sorry and pathetic. That is my motivation. Thank you very much Mr. E.