Dude,
There is nothing wrong with sex or even sexualizing the conversation. If you want to know some of the most inner thoughts and twisted desires of women. Pick up the book My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday. The author posted and add on craigslist for women all over the country to write in with their sexual fantasies. This book really opened my mind to what women actually think even though they don't talk about it like men do.
Women are way more sexual than men, way more than you realize.
Look, women are sexy and they have a hole, and you have something that fits that hole right? It's only natural man.
Believe me some of the shit I have gotten away with saying to women...in the past I figured I would have been slapped, or laying on the ground clutching my balls after they kicked me.
For example, it was Friday night and I was in McFadden's downtown on 2nd Ave. I walked right up to this hired gun (cute brunette like an
and I smacked her on the ass. She smiled but gave me a look, and I said, "I know you like it." I motioned for her to lean in.
"You make look innocent but you don't have me fooled, I know you have a freak sexual monster inside you that wants out." She turns to me and says, "you have me pegged."
Then she goes on to say that she has fishnets and a corsette she likes to wear when she's.... I tell her
"If you keep talking to me like that I'll seduce you out of habit." 
She tells me to give it a shot. I tell her, "You look at me like that one more time...I'm going to pin you against that wall and make a woman out of you with all these people watching."
It worked out pretty well btw. But anyways my point with all this is just to show you how much women get into this and it's not a big deal. You may think...oh well it's just that one girl that one time....I do this very frequently!
Check out the book, and I'd also recommend you checking out blogs by Sinn, El Topo, Mehow, and Captain Jack. The reason for this is they are excellent and pulling Same Night Lays and can go very sexual with their content.
CHAT