Ok. I thought I would never have to post for something this newbish again, but newbs are always wrong.
I got back into it on tuesday and got past my reoccurence of approach anxiety. On tuesday I approached a few girls and later in the night I decided I wanted to see one girl again, so stupidly used an afc line: "Im not very good at this in clubs, but I was just wondering if I could meet with you some other time?" she said yeah, I then said what I should have done in the first place "Do you like coffee?" she said yeah and I handed her my phone.
She even sent a friend to check on my name after so she could save it in her phonebook! If thats not an IOI I dont know what is!?!

So the next morning I was all yay for my first number close in two years and prepared a txt to send her later in the afternoon.
I decided to send a decisive txt which only required a yes/no answer; "you like coffee, right? Theres a place iv been meaning to checkout. Do you want to join me there tomorrow afternoon? x"
A perfectly acceptable txt! or i think so.
But there has been no reply... I think it was to direct and since i had only seen her briefly the lack of fluffing might have made it feel a bit full on. in hindsight i would have sent "hey, its me from the club last night. Did you have a good time?" and seen where that got me.

What do i do now? my head says dont txt her again save some dignity. My hearts saying try one more time before i break, its the first number in ages and my balls are saying just do it, if not youll never see her again, its the same as the approach. So im gonna txt her again! but what should i say?
I think I should ignore that she didnt txt me back, either that or make a joke about it. Maybe wait till next tuesday and txt to say are you out again? what about, "You promised me you'd come for coffee on tuesday night. Now ive had two coffees with two friends and neither was you "
trying to remind her when i met her and dhv in that one.

please advise!
--any other txt suggestions welcome

Beaves:

In my opinion, it seems like you lost this one. Sending more than one text is almost always AFC in my book. But seriously, don't worry about it. There are millions and millions of girls wherever you live, losing one isn't the end of the world.

Here are some brief texting rules I've come up with:

1) Try as hard as possible to not text two times in a row- wait for back and forth

2) Always wait more time to respond than it took to receive (ie:

Red Hot (9:18) blah blah blah
HB10 (10:24) blah blah blah blah <------------- 1 hour 6 minute difference so I wait more...
Red Hot (11:32) blah blah blah
)

3) If you haven't closed yet and it's been 2 days since you sent a text (and didn't get one back) then consider it cold and find some one else. I always like to keep a rotation of at least 4 prospects along with 3 regular fwbs so I don't worry about one loss.

4) If you did close with someone but it's been a while, do this one:

Red Hot: omg I just had a dream about you
HB10: hahaha what was the dream
Red Hot: I can't tell you <-------------- make yourself the prize
HB10: ugh pleaseeee
Red Hot: it's not appropriate, you can't handle it <------- also "you're too innocent, etc.

HB10: come on pleaseeee

then you can tell a sex story, get her slowly worked up, and then end it abruptly



The key with texts is to seem fun but still a prize, aloof (because it takes you longer to respond) also shows that you have better things/people to do than text her


-Red Hot

I hear what you're saying Red hot, but the afc inside me needed this one. Ill bear your tips in mind in future. A bit of the AA mentality got me too, just do it what have you got to lose. So I just did it. I did make it fun and myself the target though.
cheers