very much in limbo!

Well i sent a msg to her yesterday inviting her out fot the weekend, i wrote something like

"hey ---- how have you been? me and my mates are gonna be in the city both friday and saturday, and i think you need to stop being a hermit, come out and see me!"

To which, I am yet to recieve a reply. thats really annoying...

part of me wants to msg back and be like... alright then whatever dont worry about it if ur gonna be like tghat, but it is only the day after and it would seem petty... what shall i do?

I sent her a msg yesterday saying "well thats it then, .. you suck. the weddings off, its not you its me.. we need to see other people, i want custody of the kids tho!"

she writes back in the evening "your a douche i had not credit!"

and also " ah and im leaving for kapooka thursday woooo so i wont be here another time tho"

so... i think the windows open still

DNF*

After you kissed her and all that, shouldve just moved on like nothing happened*(step 1) then waited for her to contact you(step 2).

I love this stuff, guy gets messed up drunk..girl gets messed up drunk..they fool around, then the guy thinks OH SHIT IM IN LOVE, I CANT GO 2 MINS WITHOUT TALKING TO HER

thats the big cue behind some of this shit, Some girl may be willing to get down but if you bust a big cheese about it, it may scare her and propel her away from you.

Live and learn now.

/eod

Mal-Pbc, u make it sound like we met up once, kissed and then i totally went ovetr the edge in love and didnt see the logic... it isnt quite like that, we had been seing eachother and speaking to eachother for months and months before this happened. but frankly, I am actually angry at her now... i am not gonna send another msg unless she does. I am gettin fed up with game a bit too.... seems like theres no such thing as a 'good one' anymore, ya know... all these club girls, as much as i want to fuck them all i cant help but be a little angry with them for there flighty, cheaty ways... i thought so much of this girl, and if she can drop me so quick.... then any of these girls can and theres not much sense seeking validation in them... fair enough, ya live ya learn.... but fuck, it all kind of sucks!

^ thats how i felt a couple months back but not coz a girl was ignorin me, just the fact that i havn't sarged alot recently and when i have, it hasnt gone as well as usual, so i'm goin through a rough patch SPAM really.

do some exercise, any physical activities etc, thats what i do and it works wonders

-teen

To be honest I think this is what you get from a club girl - she could be all kinds of things you like but the downside (and everyone has a downside) is they can be flighty and expect you to keep entertaining them away from something else more entertaining. If you can put up with that you can keep her around. Something like that anyway. What I really am sure about is though, at some point you have to realise her flaws, and weigh up dealing with them and working around them to experience the positives of her, whatever that may be.

In the past I can see how I could have just grown a thicker skin and put up with their flaws, in light of how much I miss their positives.

if you don't like the flighty ways of club girls, day game! That's what I really want to do more of. It's where I've had most luck.

I did start hearing back from her and she was being friendly and it came out of the blue... i told her how I am looking at doing uni. i sent her a random msg to her yesterday like 'georga, aliens are comming to abduct all the sexy ass people for breeding. you will be fine, im just writing to say goodbye! pray for me'

lol.. she hasnt replied back yet

but im just wondering, how do i find it if she single still? also, whether shes interested in me that way... i mean the fact is, i amn a random guy she met ina club, we have only ever met up under the 'dating' context... and she still obviously wanted to keep in contact,,, so i have to think its pretty much for that purpose still yeh ?

If a girl really likes you, she might reply to a message like that - she might not, I guess, depending on what she thinks is normal - even though she liked it she might have a laugh and not think it requires a reply.

If you send a message that definetly requires a reply (even a joke one) and she doesn't, then either the message isn't getting through, hasn't read it yet, or she doesn't like you that much.

If you invite her out, and she keeps turning you down or cancelling, basically if you're not getting any feedback... my only advice is to move on. The bottom line is if she liked you she'd make some sort of effort.

I'd say again - if you don't like these flighty club girls - then day game, and get a sweet, kind loving daytime girl. Who might secretly be nasty in bed. Heheh. Worked for me!!

after reading this whole convo over, and being able to relate to it (because I'm sure tons of guys, including myself, have once been caught up in something like this), I'd have to agree with conker on this one. I think it's been too long and awkward a time since your meet with her until now, since you don't know if your friends, or dating, or whatever. It just seems like your putting yourself through too much trouble for her. I say cut your losses and move on. Learn from it. Besides, she obviously doesn't appreciate your wit.
Peace out brother.

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