I hope some of you guys have a quick repair kit for this kind of problem.

I've discovered a rather strange sticking point of mine. I don't have much trouble pulling the amount of girls i need to keep me sexualy satisfied, but I've noticed that when i'm about to f*** a high quality girl for the first or second time, i get nervous. Sometimes I can overcome this, but just as often i simply fail to get an erection and feel stupid as hell because of it.

I'm currently seing two girls on a weekly basis. One is a newly acquired hottie (she's really a treat!) and the other i've sexed for some months (pretty enough, but dumb as a doornail). I dropped by the new one a few days ago planning for the first lay (3rd time i've seen her) and the evening startet great. After a few hours I got her onto the bed and she was clearly aroused. eyes narrowed and breathing faster, her hands all over me. But then my heart starts pounding, i get nervous and i feel absolutely no phsysical reaction towards her. So after a while I look her in the eyes and tell her i don't feel like it tonight, but i'll drop by some other time. You should have seen the shock on her face. She's never heard that before i'm sure! It would've been funny, if it wasn't because of my soft d***. As I mentioned this has happened with other high quality girls before.

I've told her i'm not looking for steady relationship, but just want to have fun every now and then. This is fine by her. So there's no expectations of any kind causing the nervousness.

Now, the other girl is no problem at all. I pretty much get hard as soon as i knock on her door. So no need for viagra

To me it seems obvious that it's some sort of self esteem issue, making me want to do my best when with a girl like the new one. With more ordinary girls i don't really give a f*** and everything works fine. But how do i fix this? Does anybody know some sort of self-manipulation trick to get above this?

Thx

Flink

Flink:

For a while I had this best friend who was a girl (lets call her Tina). I told Tina all about my life, not hiding the details of my womanizing ways, because it was good to talk to someone who was a girl in a platonic way. I even used to joke with her that "the only reason we can be friends is because you're the only girl who isn't attracted to me".

A few months later, I found I was having the same problem getting hard with women. Every time it would be time for sex, I wouldn't be able to get it up. It turned out that I couldn't stop thinking about Tina, and it was interfering with sex with other women.

Mental hard-on block is a bitch, but here's how to avoid it:

Act like the whole sex is foreplay. Eat her out, finger her, act like the whole thing is about the girl you're with. Put intercourse completely out of your mind.

Make the girl WORK for your dick; she should earn it. My key rule in pickup is "she is the contestant, you are the prize".

If you can fuck one girl, you can fuck them all. Put it out of your mind, and follow your natural instincts. After all, nothing is more natural than sex, no?


-Red Hot

I like that expression

I'll try your advice and see if i can focus solely on the foreplay. Perhaps that'll make me relax sufficiently. I'll see her sometime next week again so i'll be back with the results.

If it doesn't work i just have to find some less attractive girls. How's that for weird?

Flink