Good evening guys...

I got introduced to the pick-up game properly about two weeks ago when I was really into this girl and couldn't think about anything else... my friend recommended that I read "The Game" by Straus. I have to say i immensely enjoyed it and it really helped with regards to this girl, and gave me a sense of perspective.

However I am still very much into her, and if you give me time will just explain the circumstances... We met each other i'd say about twice last year maybe and just had general conversations... She knows my old friends which is how I know her..
Anyway about two months ago she started messaging me on fb and then progressed to msn.. We have probably talked about 55 of the 60 days since then whether it being on msn on the phone or in the flesh...

I live at uni, she lives where I was brought up and where I go back to live for now... This last month I have been doin exams at uni... Anyway last month we met up a couple of times in the flesh in groups of people, we seem to get on very well, and I asked her if when I finish my exams she wants to go on a date.. she sed ye ok...

So this past month has been a bit patchy....first of all after she said yes.. I think i got a bit over enthusiastic (please bear in mind i hadn't read anything bout pickup at this point) and i think weirded her out thinking that we automatically gonna be together... We confronted this issue later and I said sorry and I didn't mean that....
Anyway we seem to be gettin on fine, and i'm gonna meet up with her on Friday just for drinks...


The problem i'm facing (now i kinda realise after I read the book) is that i talked to her too much, I've told her that i like her, which maybe ok but kinda gives her the upper hand, and that I feel we're dangling on a tightrope just about to fall into the LJBF zone.... I really don't want that, and although i'm very excited to start learning more about pick-up I admit I am into this girl..

Does anyone have any advice to stop me falling into that friend zone and how to approach it when I meet her next...


Much appreciated

Hunter x

IM JUS SAYING MAN DNT U THINK U SHOULD START NEW WITH AN HB IF THE ANSWERS NO THEN I WILL ANSWER UR QUESTION WELL CHANGE UR WHOLE PERSONALITY LIKE CHANGE THE PERSON THAT U ALREADY SHOWED HER LIKE U SAID U LIKED HER AND ALL THAT NOW WHEN UR WITH HER DHV HER AND NEG HER AND DO ALOT OF COMPLIANCE TEST IF SHE GIVES U 3 IOI'S ITS TIME TO KINO ESCALATE (HAHA REMEMBER A FRIEND WNT TRY TO KINO ESCALATE) SO THAT PROVES SOMETHING TO HER MAYB SHE WNT SEE U AS A FRIEND BASICALLY IN UR MIND BE UNPREDICTABLE COO CHARMING AND DNT LET HER WALK ALL OVER U HOPED THIS HELP TELL ME HOW EVERYTHING GOES TALK TO U SOON

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great to meet you im ISAIAH

You're already in the friend's zone. And this is One-Itis. GFTOW. Also, you told her you like her and she didn't reciprocate that at all? That should give you a hint. Not trying to be hard on you or anything, but the cues should be fairly obvious that you're in the friend's zone. I think theres 2 kinds of friend zones, 1. Too close and you're like a brother to her, and 2. You're just asexual to her, not attractive in a sexual way at all. I'm going to assume this is #1, since you have talked to her so much.

If you want to know what you should do, you need to next her, but since I know you won't do that then... Make a move on her. Invite her to hang out sometime then try to kiss her, and escalate sexually from there. If she rejects you then MOVE ON. No more excuses. Okay, hope that helped. Good luck.