I feel like this is going to turn into LJBF, I feel like lunch is a little AFC, what should I say to decline her request

Lunchtime first dates are no good, you are correct. Come up with better nighttime plans, suggest to her that that would be more fun. Take the lead, don't let her make the plans.

_________________
"Do not follow to where the path may lead. Go, instead, where there is no path and leave a trail"
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

action dates man

What exactly do you mean lunch dates are no good? If you plan it well imo lunch can be fine, there is no shame in hanging out with a girl for lunch if you want to see her. It only depends on how you handle the situation, you have to make it the center of action.

lunches are an indication that you are headed to the friend zone or already there.

im just gonna say that I'm pretty busy during the day but im more flexible at night

its hard because shes an HB9.2 but im just not tryin to fuck it up by bein afc.

A lunch date will not land you in the friends-zone. Lunch dates might. I had a girl recently invite me to a lunch date. She just got out of a LTR and was just kinda playing the feild. It turns out, another guy decided to take her on a formal date (expensive Italian restaraunt) a week ago, which really turned her off. Some people just arent into formal nightime dates. Plus, it is easy as hell to bounce from locale-to-locale when you are on a lunch/afternoon date. Kino is made much easier too, because a lunch date is usually more relaxed. And if shes a HB9, formal dates are about 3x harder because you are just sitting there, forced to entertain her with your words and stories for over an hour (forget about kino). My suggestion is to offer to take her out on a picnic date. It might sound corny, but gaming is made soooooo much easier. Kino is made alot easier too because you arent "tied down" by just sitting there, like you do at most restaraunts and cafe's. AS long as you have your game down-pat, lunch dates are great.

GO TO LUUUUUNCH, don't ask what should I say, is that AFC?, Am I a retard? Am I gay just go to lunch with her man. She obviously likes you, and another heads up. Couple of guys on here are full of shit. You go to lunch with her, stay laid back, have fun, turn up the heat, and end up in your place or hers.

man, lunch dates are fine and wont necessarily land you an LJBF. i went on a day 2 to lunch and walked around with HB9 afterwards:

- browse some shops, make a point of walking on the outside of the pavement ('oh are you like walking there to protect me?thats so manly'),

- when crossing the road either guide her across with your hand softly on the arch of her back (i was wearing a hoodie with my hands in my pockets and nonchalantly told her 'you'd better link arms with me, crossing roads can be dangerous') - you can find a lot of excuses to subconsciously insist upon acting like a couple á la adam lyons day 2 advice.

- we even walked into a furniture shop, she said 'oh look at all the stuff we can buy when we decorate our house in the future'. there was a chaise-lounge that she lay down on while i sat behind and played out a therapy session. Lots of potential - i think furniture shops are seriously overlooked in terms of gaming.

if anything, lunch dates are better because its less pressure on you and her as its 'only' lunch. just play it smooth, push pull etc and you'll be fine

-teen

This is absurd. If anything, I'm philosophically opposed to dinner first dates b/c of the pressure and expectations that can put strain on a budding relationship...plus their expensive whereas lunch is cheaper (fiscally thinking haha). Theres something comforting for the girl when she knows you want her for more than just a piece of ass (or at least seem like it, if thats not the case). Assuming things go well, then she's earned a dinner second date and your valuable attention and affection. Then again, I've always been very patient and partial to pumping comfort (aka getting to know the girl) a little before I make a go at her pants which I suppose some guys may not be ...call me old fashioned but I find the sex is much better when you know where your sticking your junk. And frankly, your legitimacy as a guy (aka reputation) and chance of her sticking around for more increase dramatically in my opinion.

_________________
Luck is where preparation meets opportunity.
Make it happen.

I disagree. I am very busy and work a lot. Lunchtime is great. After lunch you just take her on a stroll in the park to make out. Works for me every time as a comfort building exercise. In fact playing hard to get as a guy can work wonders for you. Sometimes on the 3rd date I just make it casual and leave her wanting more. No f close until date 4.

You end up in the LJBF zone if she doesn't feel attraction from your lack of confidence. If there is attraction and you both are flirting you won't get LJBFed.

This is how you get a chick to worship you. Once you're in the zone you will be able to get her to do anything you want. At least this how I work.

I love IKEA, I get girls laughing their asses off in IKEA!