I feel kind of stupid because I've read a lot of material but I have no idea what push/pull is or how it works. If someone could describe it for me and give me an example I'd really appreciate it. I've heard it's very effective esp. for my purposes. Thank you
-Constantine

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Romantic comedies and dramas, as romance novels, tend to have great push and pull story lines. The writers tug at your heartstrings, of things almost lost and could be.

In seduction, push-pull is a concept that relates closely to cat string theory, banter, and BHRR. The concept is for the PUA to immerse himself in the experience of pulling the girl when it feels good, and then pushing her away, knowing that push will make her want you more, and the return much more rewarding.

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I think it is showing that you like her but could leave at any time. I am bad at putting things into words but an example would be something like

"I bet you were the geeky kid in school, with dorky glasses, mind I rekcon you could pull them off"

crap example but you see how it is kinda taking the piss but then adding a compliment. Hopefully someone else can explain it better and give better examples

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Okay, let's put it really simply. It's like playing hard to get. You IOI her, and when she is IOIing back you pretend not to care, or you neg her. You show you're into her and then you make her work hard to get your attention, or neg her, push her away... you keep her guessing and this builds tension. One minute you are into her (pulling her in) and then the next it seems like you're about to walk away from her, or you're playfully picking on her (pushing). Now she is into you, but curious because she doesn't know if you're really into her or not, and she wants to know if you are so she's going to work to solve the puzzle. So basically you are sending her mixed messages, but she wants your IOIs so while you're pushing will make her work for your attention.

You can do this via false-disqualifiers, negs, false takeaways, etc. combined with IOIs and kino. In my opinion, this is really a way of describing the total process of a pickup. It's what's going on the entire time, it is the game.

You say: "You're such a nice girl. It really is a shame you're not my type. But don't worry, we're going to find someone for you..." as you stand next to her with your arm on the small of her back, leaning in close to talk. Your words say you're not interested, your body says you are. Your words are pushing, your body language is pulling. She's getting confused, tension is building, and she wants to figure out what's really going on so she is going to work to do just that...

I hope that make sense.

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"As to the deceit perpetrated upon women, let it pass, for, when love is in the way, men and women as a general rule dupe each other."
-Giacomo Casanova

I will give an example from a date I had on Friday night.

I went out with this girl. We met at a Starbucks and had a coffee. We then transitioned to a new venue which was mini-golf. Then went for a walk down at the water. Then went for a drink at a bar.

Push-Pull
Starbucks - I pulled her in (played footsies)
Mini-golf - I pushed her away (not standing near her or touching her)
Water - I pulled her in (sat close and had my arm on her)
Bar - I pushed her away (sat across a table with no touching)

Hugged her good night which pulled her back in.

On my way home I received the following text message:
Her "I had a great time tonight Chris...thanks. Sweet Dreams!"
Me "Me too"
Her "Oh good...I wasn't sure...lol"

By pushing and pulling I was able to create more attraction to me then just pulling her in all night.

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Date Coach Chris