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Hey guys, finally mastered a lot of my inner game issues through affirmations which feels so good, BUT I have a problem I'm not sure how to solve.
Basically, I've cut out my routines and negs from my game completely, so I'm just basically running on pure confidence, teasing a bit still and stuff, but I keep thinking to myself that when I just run on inner game I am being the 'nice guy'..
How do you avoid being THAT guy when your just having normal rapport. Should I get out of my comfort zone and start escalation earlier?
Not sure what to do when it comes to inner game, I guess its because I have been using routines and techniques for so long it feels weird to be having rapport building convos with girls again.
My last question is, and this is a tough one for me..
I have been listening to Cory Skyy and Brent Smith (naturals) and they stress in parts of their audio that remaining "Unaffected" is a very big attraction builder, as in, not caring about what others think of you / the outcome of interactions. I dont get HOW you can just litteraly STOP caring =/
Thanks.
There's nothing wrong with being a nice guy. I want to have that stated.
But there's a limit to everything. You won't have someone walk all over you because that's not part of your reality. Use common sense.
To stay out of that friend zone start escalating earlier and stay in a flirty vibe.
Being unaffected mean trusting in who you are, what you are and what your beliefs are.
So what might help is writing your beliefs down. Like there are no slutty women only women that know what they want is one thing I 100% believe in. And is something I find attractive.
But what you want to go after to stay unaffected is indifference.
The way is to get indifference is by approaching so many sets that at one point it just clicks in your mind that you don't even care wether a set is going good or is going terribly.
Besides every set that you open should be of self-amusement, if you're having fun others will aswell, as having fun is contagious.
hope it helps
-Jav