http://www.therakeletter.com/letter/Gir ... etter.html

I understand the not being clingy part, but this confused me:
Aren't guys supposed to pay for dinner on a date?

Read it carefully its says buying a woman "affection".... that's the keyword here. What the advice is trying to tell you is not to buy things for a woman in order to get her affection. Guys pay for the dinner, because it shows you have higher value and you can look after yourself and the girl - but never expect anything more than that. By buying her something it willl not get you her affection.

But that note, it doesn't mean that you should absolutely rufuse to pay for it
or
'well im not paying for it, when the waiter turns his back, RUN!'

If she doesn't offer to pay half, just come to a polite agreement, that you will both pay half each.
Also i wouldn't advise going for a meal on first dates, unless you have something brilliant planned for afterwards. Or you're some swarvy guy who owns a ship or something.

And it doesn't mean never buy them anything like 'you're never getting anything from me bitch', after you've been dating for a while it's ok to buy them things now and again.