I have all the tools to suceed but my inner game is my only problem :[. I go through these spurts of being very confident then being very unconfident. I guess its from my past because I havent had this problem beofore. So to the sticking points.

1. If somebody calls me something that I dont wanna be called even if its a joke I feel like shitt...

2. Im scared to approach because I dont know what the outcome is gonna be.I have anxiety most of the time but I always summon up the courage and go in... Unconfidently.

3. I care too much what people thing... This isnt so bad anymore as it used to be... But it stills need a lil improvement.

4. I cant maintain strong eye contact because im scared that it will come off as creepy or w.e...

5. I can maintain a conversation with any girl... But dont proceed further into something more sexual because fear of rejection...

6. Im thinking of seeing a therapist. Has anyone gone to a therapist for inner game issues? And how did it turn out for you.

7. Ive never really opened up like this on here... Im hoping this will have a positive outcome and help me overcome some of these IG issues if not all.

Everything in my life is going well. Alot of friends,good grades,getting offers from colleges for basketball, but my life would be fuliflled if I overcome these inner game issues. This is like the missing part of my puzzle.

Thanks a ton

Msquared;]

Thanks a ton guys

1. i see where you're coming from on this one. it really depends on the context of what was said. but as a general rule, act like it was your best friend who said it to you while you guys were fooling around and chill out, laugh it off and or let it blow over.

if it was ment as an attack or insult, don't let it effect you, just ignore it. it's hard to do at first but you'll get the hang of it. and in the end, just know that if you pull it off right, they'll end up feeling shittier than you.

2. don't be outcome dependant. the outcome don't matter. sorry don't have quite as deep of an answer.

3. again, see #1. often if you're consistent enough at being who you are, people will just accept you for the good and the bad.

4. look in the mirror, make sure you have a smile...not a creepy one. don't force it. you'll pick it up.

5. use humor as a gateway to sexual topics. how is she going to reject you? it's conversation/it's a joke. if she gets "offended" laugh it off, tell her to chill out, it's a joke.

6. idk, but i don 't think they'll offer you any great advice. talking to one might make you feel better tho.

7. understandable. friends, despite being your buddies tend to throw put downs around too quickly.

Thanks man. You read any Inner game or listen to any tapes? Im thinking of actually buying Derek Vitalios deep inner game audio series. Sounds really good even too good to be true. It says in 30 days you can totally transform yourself. I think everyone with inner game issues should check it out. Ill find people who used it and eventually tell you guys if it really does work.