I'm sure there are numerous other guys who have gone through this same thing and gotten over it, but I've analyzed every aspect of it and it still scares the hell out of me! I'm 18 and have had sex with 5 different women, 4 of which have either lied or jumped the gun on being pregnant. I'm not a father (thank god), and I know the odds are extremely high that it won't happen, but I can't bring myself to have sex anymore! I know how ridiculous this sounds. I've had numerous friends tell me to just go do it and not worry, but it just won't happen. Any advise would be much appreciated.

Havik

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Do you use a condom?

Ya of course.

Havik

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Condom.

Hate using it because it feels so bad. 95% safe however.

Pull out.

Feels a whole lot better but there's still the risk.

If you get off your computer and walk across the street, you might get plowed over by a bus.

If you fly somewhere for a vacation, the plane could fall out of the sky and kill everyone on board.

Life is full of risks, and if you don't take any, you're not really living. You're just existing. As long as you've taken every reasonable precaution, there's no reason not to pursue what you want. You even acknowledge in your own post that this is a completely irrational fear with almost no basis in reality.

The odds are in your favor. Be safe and have fun.

Your boy,
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haha one of my favorite quotes is "surviving is not living, its existing"

choices make life so fun, here you are faced with two choices, one you can go buy yourself a cute little promise ring, abstain from sex untill marriage, and continually ask yourself what if....

or you can take back control of your life, not let women mess with your head, have your balls drop back into place and use them...

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Wow that is extremely motivating. I just needed to know that I really was making wayyyyy too much out of this than it really was. I actually do have the same views on life: live every day as if it were your last. Whenever I see a fear, I recognize and overcome. This, though, I needed outside help with. Thanks guys.

Havik

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Admittedly I'm still a v--n, but I have encountered the topic of asking someone what you need to. When you want to avoid having an unwanted offspring at all costs.

Just being straightforward about it works. You are just qualifying her more.

But waiting till one of us is almost about to fcuk a chick and pussyfooting around the issue clearly shows sexual insecurity and that you weren't man enough to just make yourself clear.

How this related to safe sex is: If we never happened to bring it up before hand, I would tell her were not gonna be having any kids no matter what, are you with me here? Its like I'm saying take it or leave it, and you know you want it.

If a girl is against having emergency contraception or aborting a mistake, regardless of how slim the risk is I wouldn't be fcuking her very long and pulling out early, maybe not even fcuking at all. I have my whole life ahead of me and nothing holding me down, and want to keep it that way even if it means passing up hedonistic oppurtunities with unnecessary risks.

Abortion is an effective means of population control, an unnatural answer to the unnatural circumstance of modern civilization. This is a whole other topic tho. Basically if you're worried about pregnancy, don't be. Assert you decision to prevent it and eliminate the 2% slips at all costs. Slips are happening to everyone around me so it can ahppen to you.

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Coming from a woman's perspective... you're 18. You've had about 80% of the women you've slept with give you a pregnancy scare....

What are YOU doing to cause this?

It's got to be something about you... or it's got to be something cultural. You're either too nice or too unattainable in a perfect way (I doubt the latter because you're on the forums, and that's not a bad thing.)

Honestly, either you're exaggerating, you're incredibly unlucky.... or your behavior causes women that you've slept with to go ape-shit crazy and say that they are pregnant to hold on to you.

Let's dig into this. I'll go there if you get honest with me.

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I will admit that I am considered a major nice guy in a relationship. Looking in retrospect, I let them walk all over me and just gave them whatever they wanted. But I don't fully understand why being a nice guy would cause women to do that.

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