I need a little advice on giving out effective hugs.. lol. I am really bad at escalating kino, and sometimes it just feels necessary to hug a chick im talking to to, but i dont have much experience in hugging as weak as that sounds.. hahah. Specifically, like whats the best way to hug a chick you're gaming.. like arm position, closeness, etc. Any help is much appreciated !! thanks

Lean in towards her, while smiling at her and open your arms so she knows. Wrap your arms around her and pull her in (not too tight). Hold it for a litltle and rub her back if you want (dont pat her back thats too friendly) and when letting her go let your arms slide down to just above her butt. Dont rub her but on the way down either to look like a perv (unless your feeling really confident!) Also, dont do a friendly hug around her neck make sure its around her body, so that she hugs your neck.

I've got a mission for you that will improve your game in many ways, as well as give you something cool to remember and add to you as a person. Hopefully you're in a decently big city; go to a mall or some central area with a lot of people coming through and bring a sign that says, "FREE HUGS". Do what the guy in the video does, just hug random people that are up for it and you'll totally get the hang of hugging with lots of different people.

By doing this you'll learn how to hug a person without having done so before, you'll become more comfortable hugging random people you've just met, you'll break down a lot of approach discomfort and you may even get a few numbers along the way.

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Now, after you do all that, I suggest the best way to hug ANYONE, is to do a 1 arm over, 1 arm under, sort of thing - so you each have 1 arm up and 1 arm down. That keeps you on even ground and it's also probably the easiest way to come together without much chance of not fitting properly because you both tried to go high and the same time, or your heights don't match up well and you're hugging her head. Don't hold on for a long time, just hug and let go. I could explain more, but if you actually do the mission I gave you, you'll figure it out pretty well.

Don't be afraid to hug your guy friends, or guys at the bar who you know pretty well. That's another good way of getting comfortable with it. It's a good thing to do in public as well because it show's you're a touchy person and that you've got lots of friends, so other people won't be bothered if you go to hug them.

Haha Ray, excellent video

Well, when I started meeting with girls, I made an assumption, that finding the best moment for huging is difficult so I hug in the time I'm eagerly to do it. I don't wait for IOIs or something, just walk with a girl and embrace her, even if I know her for few minutes.

Sometimes they say something like: ""I don't know you, so I feel uncomfortable being emraced by you" and I give in and just try again after hour. It rarely happens to be rejected with the second try. But in most cases girls haven't made many problems about being embraced.

This is all good stuff =). I might do the free hugs thing.. i've got a lot of time this summer to improve gaming

I find that you become much more able to make people comfortable when you're hugging them if you are comfortable doing so yourself. Push your boundries and walk up to complete strangers in the bar and make eye contact as you're walking by, then hold your arms open and give them a big smile; you'd be surprised most people WILL hug you without more than a brief hesitation.

I don't think free hugs is a good idea. It will make you come off as a very lame person (only lame people do that free hugs thing). If you want to be cool, do a "free feel-up's" campaign or "free french kiss" campaign or something

I agree...not necessarily about the lame part, my problem is that this will only give you experience in giving friendly hugs, not the kind of hugs you give to girls you are gaming. However, the "free hug" campaign can increase your confidence, which is a plus!

Dude, it's usually NOT about being sexual when you hug a girl you're just meeting at a bar. You want to give them a friendly, fun and energetic, but sexually disinterested kind of hug. Seriously. If you come in hot and bothered then you're gonna scare off any but the slutty slutty chicks for the most part. So hugging girls the way you would when learning by giving free hugs out would be just exactly the right way.

As far as the free hugs thing being lame and only lame people doing it, I'd say that that is a close minded comment because I"m betting you haven't seen people doing it before and you don't actually know for sure what they're like. I HAVE actually seen those people and yes, I did run up and hug them. I was gonna do free hugs at a music festival a few years back, but I ended up having a bad experience and didn't get up the energy afterwards. I think most people who have the guts and the heart to do free hugs are often pretty fucking cool people who are real chill and awesome to hang out with. I think that considering how many people signed that petition, as well as probably hugged that guy or the other people with him, there's enough variety of people that there's some cool people and enough people think that it's cool to do, so you won't be heckled.