Don't get me wrong, I have enormous respect for people that know how to handle their handicap.


The line just seemed a bit tool-ish to put in the beginning of your post. Just my perspective.

Sounds like something a friend would say to another friend. I would tone down the nice guy bit and make it more playful. You could just say something ridiculous like:

You: "I'm gonna going to the mall to buy some crack. Come meet me and i'll let you have some"

Her: Lol What??!

You: Okay by crack i meant haircut. Going to the ________ (insert name of bar) afterwards. Come Kick back a few with me!

That's kind of an akward question and I don't know if the bar is the best place to go for the kiss since you both know eachother well. Maybe after the bar suggest to go back to your place for wine. Then ask "would you like to kiss me". And do it confidently.

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

the saga continues lol. I did invite her to the mall last night and she said she'd come but was working til 8 and I didn't feel like waiting around so I txted her back and said I was going home but I got her a pk of smokes and a 12pk. What sucked was this was the most platonic hang out we've ever had. I swear it was like I was chillin with one of my boys or something. I brought up sex but very little was said. I can't help but wonder if she's ever thought about hooking up/messsing around. I mean, so many times the two of us alone in my apt drinking and nothing. She's no prude and she hasn't had any in a while...We should fuck around. It would be fun for both of us right? Even if I could just get us to lay on the couch together and watch a movie... I've never made a move on her even when she's flirted and I wonder if now she just takes it as a strictly platonic relationship? It's hard to initiate kino from a wheelchair when she's on the couch and last night was not at all the mood to make a move...I have to do it soon or else-if it's not already-the window of opportunity will be gone. She told me to call her today. I don't know if I will. maybe I should just blow her off for a week though I don't know what that would accomplish

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

What is your goal here my friend? Are you looking for a girlfriend or an f-close?

If you're looking for an f-close you have to immediately get out of this friends zone that you are currently stuck in. And, this is just me but, I don't stay friends with girls who I want to f-close who thwart all my advances by always coming back with the "Let's just be friends" line. Who needs that kind of stress?

I say put her on the spot. Put her in a situation where she has to jump out of the friends zone. Do it boldy, not subtly. Don't ask her if she would like to kiss you. Say, "Close your eyes. I'm going to kiss you now." Don't ask. Lead.

Or if you feel more comfortable with email, ask her if she is free for the evening. If she says yes then send her something like, "You usually come over here as a friend. But at 9:00pm you are going to come over here and I am going to give you a topless massage." No smiley faces.

Whip out out the cajones my friends. If she negs you on the email PM and I'll walk you through it.

Good Luck

Less Talk, more action.

Worst case scenario you make a move and she stops talking to you. Best case scenario you bone a 10.

Personally I'd take either of the two above scenarios over permanent friend zone with an HB 10. It's your choice. Just stop thinking and do it otherwise you're gonna overthink this thing.

I disagree with the above post about emailing her. That's too easy to ignore and if she's a woman, she'll ignore that kind of thing - even if she's into you. Also don't force her into it. You could try the tic tac game....

I can't remember how it goes but you tell her "check this out. I know I learned this new bar trick. Here put this tic tac in between your teeth so that a little bit of it sticks down. But don't bite it in half." (she says ok). then you say "i'm going to take that tic tac from your mouth with only my teeth without touching your lips or any part of your body. Then just kiss her and tell her you lied."

I've never done it but i heard about it from someone else on this forum.

Bottom line it comes down to action. Do something.

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."