Now that im starting to sarge and what now I realized that my inner game frame is all wrong.
Im still interested in the outcome with girls. Not even sexually but just moving from A1 to A3, for me its exciting, but it comes across with telegraphing interest and it prevents me from getting to A2.

How do I destroy this?

I want a frame where I'm just talking to a girl, thats it. I dont even want to think that im interested in anything other than seeing if they meet MY standards. But when I practice using openers and stuff like that I realize that my frame is that im still pursuing the girl, and that makes my stuff incongruent.

Just about any time you speak to a girl, especially in a bar or club, deep down she thinks "why is this guy talking to me, is this guy is hitting on me" no matter what you say, they know. Unless it is the most situational opener or you're in her class or something like where there is a major excuse to talk, & even then I think that's the first thing she is processing. I think you want to send mix signals which means some intent. Keep her guessing a little. If you totally disqualify IMO it's hard to switch it back & transition. I just try to be a loof early mixed with flirty.

To avoid the outcome, pat attention to the situation at hand, in essence be in the moment.

for most this is rather difficult starting out, simply because they cant get past thinking what to say next.

when you dont worry about what comes out of your mouth, when you dont plan or pre-think what topics you will talk about or how you will approach, thats when you can sit back and enjoy yourself.

i rely very little on what i say, and all about how i say it. Body language, tone of voice, eye contact, the non verbal cues, and the self confidence.

untill you are less concerned with what is said, it will be hard to avoid the outcome. because you made a plan in your head, and you check the progress of that plan with each passing moment. Imagine no timeline, imagine simply having fun.

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