aite this girl literally likes to be in charge when shes in a relationship ( not that we are in one) and jus straight up bossy... now this girl is very smart.... so my question is... how to maintain a higher value, and control when the girl likes being bossy and in charge, and gets pissed off when i try to take control or act a lil bossy?

Well I don't know that I've ever dealt with bossy girls before in pickup, but I have in relationships. Normally these girls are bossy because they've been in a place in their lives where they are ALLOWED to be bossy (relationship, family life, social circle).

In relationships when a girl got bossy I simply treated it as bad behavior. At first I would address it and let her know that she wasn't my father (lol) and that although her friends/ex-boyfriend/family would put up with it that I wouldn't. I'd give her one version of my 50%/50% relationship speech and that would devalue her for looking high maintanence, and then I'd freeze out a bit. Normally she'd come around and, after feeling especially humiliated and chastised, she would change her attitude. If she stays pissy at you after that I would just freeze out more and laugh at her attempts to be bitchy.

In pickup, however, I'd move to the offensive fast. If a girl was trying to be bossy with me (especially in a negative, not playful way in front of her friends) I'd immediately use some canned bitch-shield remover and neg her for feeling entitled. Then when she tried to respond I'd cut her off and toss in some comment about how I bet something in her past triggered all this as a defense mechanism, and no matter how bad it is that it doesn't give her the right to boss people around. Chicks LOVE it when you know their psychology. If that kind of response doesn't shut her down then I don't know what to tell you. Tell the group that you're obviously not welcome and exit like a PUA. If she appears shut down, try and get her isolated later and suggest starting over.

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