hello there!

so that's pretty much my problem.. I just can't pull the trigger, make it #, K or F close.. Something in my head tells me to slow things down, like what if the girl thinks we're exclusive or some shit.. I know, silly thought but when I need it the least, it hits like a drill. Is that the famous voice of morale? so what the hell to do to shut it up?

I guess I subconciously thinks of it as a step towards commitment, which will be hard to undo.


how do you all, each of you with your techniques, gets rid of the anxiety to pull the trigger?

any method/suggestion/insult haha be welcome

-Teague

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talk to random people like when your buying groceries. at work i talk with customers to get there opinions on the movie. which is great cause all my in game openers ask peoples opinions on something.

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Giovanni

thx for the reply

I'm not talking about approach anxiety, that's a different sticking point I'm already getting rid of.. good tips though


I'm talking about the next step, the next level. almost like phase shifting. I'm just afraid to get there and not being able to get back

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This used to be a massive problem for me.. It went on for years.

I found
1) It is true that in order to overcome a fear, you have to do the thing you fear.
2) Giving a "statement of intent" can often help a lot. (SOI) E.G. I think you have really lovely eyes. I've never seen someone with that colour. -> I wonder what it would be like to kiss you...

I find talking about kissing in some way is a good way to get you both thinking about the right things, and makes it much easier to then make a move.

Exactly what Will said. Complement something unique about her, and your good.

Best of luck man!

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Giovanni

Will and Gio both have great advice.

Question:
Are you saying you're nervous/dont know how to close? Or are you saying you do but you just dont want to because you're afraid of a potential long-term relationship? Please specify...

Any advice that Teague finds useful, i think i will too.
Bx, i think that you're implying about something called fear of success. Please, correct me if im wrong.
Im practicly 90% sure that i got that. I dunno how to get rid of it.

Teague, i hope u'll get the advice that will help you man. Update us on ur progress bro.

File

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Fear of success? I just dont understand why you wouldnt want to succeed.

thank you all guy for the replies. Really.

Now, I think File might have a point about what's wrong with me. although the more I think about being afraid to success, the more stupid I feel for being so.


as a few of you asked, I know the 'theory' lets say, for pulling the trigger. Every word's in my head, the girl's in a silver plate in front of me.. and yet something deep inside me tells me that, someway, I'll regret going any further.

I really can't find any explanation to it, and that being the case, next time I'll just try to ignore the little voice. after a few experiences I'll post with my results, if it's still there, all of that..

Much love ppl. thx again
-Teague

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doubt is a stubborn mind mechanic that can be hard to overcome.

We all doubt our limits, simply because, we have never pushed ourselves past a certain place to see if we could overcome the challenge.

Intuition, is that gut feeling, that we all posses, its almost certainly right, but because there is no evidence that your intuition can be based off of, doubt comes into play, after all we have been told all our lives to doubt things.

If an idea comes into your mind, pay attention to your doubts, and do the opposite of it, after all, the opposite of doubt is intuition.

You main focuse right now, is on the outcome and how the target may percieve you,, but why? they are only people, that for the most part, may never see again, yet you let them control your reality to the point you dont do what you want. How does it feel to be manipulated by complete strangers?

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Sometimes you just have to become a little cave man. . . man see girl, man want girl, man go get girl.

Just take it, because a man gets what he wants.

Something I've been doing stuff with is act on impulse. . . "Fire! Ready, Aim"

Another thing to think about, is yourself, yeah, you want her there but remember you are out there for YOUR benefit, not someone else.

So,

Do the things you want to do, and dont do the things you dont want to do.

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