I work in our family business. I run a shop. We have 5 shops. There is a girl who works in one of the other shops who I have slept with a few times. We both wanted each other from the moment we saw each other. She used to text me randomly saying things like "gorgeous", or "you're hot" etc. She said when she first saw me she was like "wow" and so on. I would tell her she's hot and sexy etc. I met her on a friday, and by the sunday I was at hers doin it on her couch. At first it was just sex. Admitedly I was a bit of an arsehole cos she wanted more and obviously I played her a bit. A few months went by when we didnt really speak at all as I was working somewhere else for a while. But when I came back I had to work in the shop with her for a couple of weeks. I went back to hers after work one night & stayed over, & one night I was out & was drunk & ended up back at hers. It was kinda just sex again (for me) but recently I've started to like her more and more & wanted to hook up with her. For some reason she started ignoring my texts or only rarely texting me back. Obviously I speak to her on the phone from time to time when I need to call the other shop. But she would start making excuses to not hook up when I asked. When I asked if she still liked me she said she thinks it would be best if we were just friends. I told her I liked her & that she used to ask why I wouldnt be her man so why has she changed her mind. She said I had my chance. I said does she really wanna through everything away just because I didnt get with her right at the begining and she didnt text back. Admitedly I did kinda text her a lot when she was ignoring my texts, I know I'm a shmuck. I doubt its got anything to do with her not liking me any more cos she was all cuddling me and shit the last time I saw her. Its weird. I think it might be cos I got a bit keen, who knows. But what can be done to get her back cos I do actually think I could have her as a girlfriend??

Hmmmm sounds to me like she has another man dude, the whole you had your chance and now your gonna pay is out of the guys book we are the ones that like to do that shit lol. I could be wrong though but if I was you I would be preparing to go into sabotage mode and find out who this guy is if infact it is another guy.

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Yo guess a bit of buyers remorse, but what you got in a rush now you got to wait for. Just be patient and start the occasional texting as if you just got her number and again what do you want with her? You decide!

Don't think she has another fella cos I didn't text her for a few days and then asked her, she was all like "no, why you asking that?". I said I couldnt work out why she liked me then all of a sudden ignores my texts. thats when she said I had my chance.
Still, fuck it. Plenty more where that came from.
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sounds to me amn that eather shes playing hard to get so you could fall for her or maybe you just waited to juch since you had alot of sex and never mention that you wanted to be her bf she problably just thaout hey this guys just wants to fuk now you got to show her that you ant her as a gf gonna be hard man but its possible take her out and act like you nevr had sex and start it over good luck the quikkster

Yeah, buyer's remorse. She doesn't believe you're as into her as she was, and she can't be sure if your new behaviour is because you really HAVE gotten more into her, or because you are trying harder to get back into having sex with her.

I'm not sure what your situation is though. You guys might be at a point where all you really have to do now is start showing signs that you do care intimately about her, by choosing lines of conversations or actions that show her you remember important likes/dislikes she's told you.

But if she's really pushing you away, it's possible that approach could come off AFC-ish or stalker-ish, in which case you have to re-woo her like the other guys suggested. Give up the chasing vibe, keep things casual. Hang out or talk on the phone or whatever it is you guys are currently doing and use that time to be friendly and funny and do some "indirect bragging" as EXAMPLES of how you have been a great boyfriend in the past, eg. bring up relevant stories that have LTR facts in them "...and I can't BELIEVE she forgot I hate asparagus after we'd been dating for THREE YEARS!" or stories that showed you once had a strong connection with someone, eg. something extra nice your girlfriend did for you.


I think it's cool that she couldn't reply when you said "Do you really want to throw everything away JUST because I didn't get with you at the beginning?" to me that means she wants to get with you but can't understand why she feels afraid to. But you won't get ANYWHERE with her by confronting her with logical arguments like this. It's all feeling based for her, logic is completely irrelevant here, and in fact will just make her feel pressured and confused and will drive her away. I recommend dropping that line of approach - seriously, can you imagine a girl in her situation responding to that statement with "That is a sound argument, I see now that it's only logical I date you." ?

You will need to think about this yourself and find your own way to make sure you give off a "I can actually be a nice boyfriend" vibe as genuine and natural as possible.