I got paralyzed from the waist down from a car accident but there is this hb10 who always comes over my apt alone with me and hangs out, brings me cigarettes and alcohol... then last night though as she was leaving she says "it's been real, it's been fun, but it wasn't that much fun." OUCH!? But then she texts me a few min. later and says"uhh, my cat is trying to hump my leg in bed! did he ever do that to you?" I get mixed signals all the time with her but I'm thinkin she was saying we could have had a lot of fun if I'd moved on her and then the text was some sort of subtle sexual innuendo... Does she wanna fuck or what man? How would you take those statements??

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

um... I dunno, its bit of a weird txt,

Is that like for like how she wrote it?

Sounds like she teasing.... how u end up with a HB10 bringing u fags n booze? damn man.

I would tease the fuck out of her over txt, make sum references to how smokin u think she is etc..

If u want a CnF txt script just holla at me init

I think you are looking into her 2nd statement too much.

However, the "it's been real, it's been fun, but it wasn't that much fun" statement could have been taken as teasing depending on how it was said OR she was probably hoping that something else could have happened especially if you talk a big game.

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"To Give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift" -Prefontaine

Not a PUA just a girl offering my opinions/advice

Thats sort of where I would come from on this.... but I dunno, its jus really bad english, so makes it harder to break down the subconscious message in it

It's a REALLY weird text comin from her and that was word for word. I watched her cat for a wk many months ago? when she left, I think she meant what she said, she seemed bored. It's becoming increasingly hard to talk to her 1 on 1 so I'm startin to go AFC a little with her. How'd I get a 10 comin bringing me smokes and alcohol? lol She used to go out with a friend of mine and now she lives right down the hall so we started hangin out and became friends and I hold back but she become irresistable to me. My initial response was "yea, I banged him out a few times" lol I'm not sure what to say to her now...

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

If you're willing to put your friendship on the table and chop it in half with a battle axe I have a suggestion for you.

Ignore her completely for an entire week. Then call her over. She will probably be excited to come by.

Tell her you're going to let her play you her favorite music. Neg her about it.

In fact just neg her as much as you can and make comments about how she's just another pretty face and ask her if she has any smart friends that look like her. Make her say somethign dumb and then say "You're such a sweetheart. We'll find you a nice simple boy one day" (say it cocky)

when you feel at the peak of your sexual tension make a move. If you're scared to do it use the style line. "would you like to kiss me?"

No = good because i didn't say you can!
Yes = do it
Maybe = do it

This advice is not a complete game plan. Maybe some of the more experienced guys can add their thoughts.

I hope it helps. Keep us all posted!

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

some of that sounds a bit harsh

yh just wondering when you say no(you can't kiss me),what would you be like afterwards?Wouldn't the mood just get kinda awkward?you're still not getting kissed. (especially if she wasn't being funny when she rejected the kiss)

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Your mistake does not define who you are...you are your possibilities.

Piss Lightning.Shit Success.

yh just wondering when you say no(you can't kiss me),what would you be like afterwards?Wouldn't the mood just get kinda awkward?you're still not getting kissed. (especially if she wasn't being funny when she rejected the kiss)

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Your mistake does not define who you are...you are your possibilities.

Piss Lightning.Shit Success.

Stop pitying yourself. It's not attractive.

Yeah it definately could be akward, but if you do it tongue in cheek with a cocky playful tone and a smile she might punch your arm and call you a dick. Then you can get on with whatever you're doing.

Its not without risk though.

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

That's not self-pity. It's a relevant fact. It definitely affects the activities you can do with somebody.

CPT

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"Wait, so let me get this straight. One really big meal a day then we go to sleep, no paper towels but a little bit of bread because we're not Nazis and as many popsicles as we want."

JAV, you don't have a clue what you are talking about. I CERTAINLY DON'T "pity myself". I was simply letting you guys know what my position was. thank you callmecaptain

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

ok, well I sent her an email about that text and she didn't respond at all?? but we talked on the phone last night. I have a wheelchair that allows me to stand up at a bar and things like that (it's pretty awesome actually!) so i've been waiting 4-ever to get it fixed because it wouldn't stand and I got it fixed so I texted her "my wheelchair is FINALLY back in the game!" and her response was "thats exciting". Not what I expected, I thought she was raggin or something so i didn't respond and then she texted me again and asked me what days and times I have classes. (we start college on the same day and are in the same type curriculum.) I waited a while and then I told her. I'm going to the Mall to get my haircut and I was gonna send her a text saying "I'm going to be at the mall getting my haircut but I was going to have some drinks at the bar. You're welcome to meet me there if you'd like." Should I do that and if she comes ask her, "have you ever thought about kissing me?" or should I stick with the "do you want to kiss me?" I kinda wanna know if she has ever thought about it. I mean, she's gorgeous man but she hasn't had any in a while and I've always been considered a cute guy and she's said so...all the time she and I have spent together alone in my apt?? I just have a hard time believing our relationship is THAT platonic guys

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"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"-Emerson

I dont think that it is all that dangerous, do you call your friends every week? I dont. Plus, it is a freezeout, no biggie, you were busy, you were tired, you didnt feel like it, she has got to accept that you didnt call her.

You dont need to neg her really, you can just treat her like a friend while giving her sexual (flirty) undertones. Keep it cocky and funny, for entertainment, not for being an ass...

The kiss... Thats Mysterys Kiss gambit if Im not mistaken... It works wonders in field in a normal sarge (or so I have heard) but I guess you need a different approach here. You need to build Kino, I have used the Evolution phase shift routine for almost every possible situation and it has worked for me.

Finally, her comment... Could it be that she expected you to make a move? By now the man must have understood that Im interested, make a move you sissy...

At least thats what it sounds like.

Ezo