So I was talking to this chick for some time now and we bonded really well over the internet/txting (we didnt like to call and talk on the phone). So we made this plan to see eachother two weeks in advance.. that day was yesterday. She lives in Seattle so I drove over there and we were suppose to see eachother after she was done working. We txtd and made jokes throughout the day.. but you know what? She never showed up. I ended up sitting around with my thumb up my ass for almost two hours waiting for her because she said that she was going to change clothes first (she said she had a skirt on and it was pretty windy). I txt'd her twice (30 mins inbetween), didn't get a response. Then I called her.. no response. I got the message. Heh. I dont know what went wrong but I doubt I'll be talking to her again.

It's so weird how women works. I doubt she was playing me this whole entire time because.. why would she? There was no reason whatsoever. I told her if she didn't want to meet, I wouldn't care. There was no pressure or anything like that. I know better. Oh well.. I just thought I'd share.

P.S. I'm going to another "blind date" today with a different chick. I'm picking her up from work. Hopefully it'll work out better. Or I'm just having a shitty luck. Advices are welcomed.

She shafted you. %#$@% her man. Thats bogus as hell making you drive out there.

I met up with a girl on okcupid, and it turned out she had the angles. I only hit up girls now that have full body shots on there profiles.

She was also a snot. Complaining about everything I did. Even complained when I got up to take my medicine for my stomach ulcers. I got back, and told her it wasn't working and left.

But keep trying man.

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Sounds like she got cold feet and chickened out man. Perhaps you didnt build enough attraction before you agreed to meet.

Before you Meet, she must be invested. Within the emotions of flirting and bantering with you, she gives you her phone number. She may have every intention of following up with you in the future. But once you are separated, memories fade and there are new flirtations for her to embrace. SO, it's not enough for you to get her number or for that matter its not enough for her to be attracted to you, She must become invested.

The more invested she is the more likely she will be to get a return on that investment.

Yeah, it sucks.. and I think she did get the cold feet.

By the way, how can I make her "invest" more in me? We never met in person. I got her number online. This was going to be our first meeting. We flirted and got her to agree with the meet-up a week before. During that whole week (last week), we continued to talk and flirt. There was no signs that she was losing interest in me. I dunno, I felt blind-sighted and it sucked. But you just move on, I guess. I haven't txt'd or called her since and she has done the same.

Sounded like she like the attention you where giving her with all of the texting you where doing with her. And in the end she really had no intentions to actually meet up with you. As her telling you she had to change as she was wearing a skirt was her way of telling you "I am not going to meet you". Plus why did you wait 2 hours for her? That is a bit AFC. At most I wait 30 minutes for a girl to show or for anyone I have a planned meeting with. If they do not show within 30 minutes with no call telling me that they are running late, I leave. I don't put up with lateness.

I think part of the reason why she never meet you, besides liking the attention, was that you got her to AGREED to meet you. You should never get a girl to agreed to meet you. Its AFC. A girl should always WANT to meet you because she is that interested in you. You simply did not had this girl's interest high enough really.

Wow, amazing. Thanks man. I see it now. And yeah, as for the two hours thing.. I kind of lost track. I would've given her an hour.. but I was having fun in Seattle. It was my first time there and I lost track of time. But I know what you mean. It makes me feel better knowing what I did wrong. Thanks.

On AGREEING to meet me, how would I make her to WANT to meet me? I mean, I did it 'cause I wanted to take charge, not be an AFC. Y'know, make an arrangement 'cause I don't think the woman would do it (especially since we've never met). Tips would be great for future references.

Basically get her interest in you higher, to the point that she is showing signs of wanting to meet you.

Its fine to take charge but what you did was not taking charge. Imagine your this girl and she was you. How would you feel with her getting you to agreed to meet her? I doubt you will find it attractive. In taking charge here you came off as a AFC that really wanted to go out with her and so she used that to feed her attention needs.

I'm going to ask you a couple of reflective questions:
1. Did you have any obvious feelings ahead of time that she was going to stand you up? I'm not talking about natural nervousness. I'm talking about intuition. I have a saying that goes, "The only time youre ever wrong about someone is if you cover up what you know is true with what you hope is true."
2. Did you use the online equivalent of kino escalation? I believe such exists. It is akin to cyber sex, but don't let that turn you off. If you are talking online, you still need some sort of kino simulation. Wether you put *'s around it, or what, I recommend it.
-One of the things I have done in the past is use the kiss test online, then kiss them. You get the same test results. Anything can be simulated, from a wink, a sarcastic cough, anything. Try it! Without kino simulation, you will not get anywhere, and if you wait too long, your chances are shot.
3. Did you get her on web cam? This is a must. Prior to meeting in real life, it breaks the physical barrier with her. Having her show you pictures does not hold a candle to having her get on camera. To do this I recommend the Webcam Joke technique that I have developed. To do it, word it however you'd like to, and tell her you want to test a joke on her to see her reaction. This is a huge ice breaker because once she laughs on cam, she will be less nervous. Also, if you can, get her on mic, but not in the same cam session. Cam, then cam and mic. Make sure you are on cam and mic too. If you aren't, it's awkward and voyeuristic to her. Finally, do not attempt inviting her to cam too early, especially if she's shy. Use your intuition as I said earlier.

Do not be too upset. This is a skill similar to playing guitar. You are going to lose some good ones.

I am going to simmer on this, and possibly I will provide more advice to you. I don't intend to let you down. Everyone here is my brother in online sarging, and I intend to bring us all internet lays.

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I see what you mean now, jurupa. Thanks bro.


1) No. Seriously. 'Cause like I mentioned on my earlier posts, everything was going fine and "normal". We txt'd, joked around, and everything else for that whole week.
2) Once. I told her to give me a kiss before I went to bed. And she did. Maybe I should've kept it going.
3) Nope. This would've probably sealed the deal (or destroy it and save me the trip to Seattle). It makes alot of sense though.. I see how it would break the physical barrier a whole lot. I'll do this in the future.

And I was a little upset.. maybe more disappointed than anything.. when I drove home empty handed that day. But I got over it that night and just forgot about her. Like I said, we stopped communicating. I'm fine with that. Thanks a bunch for the advice bro!