| Ok, this FR has a point. It is not just here for bragging.
This Tuesday I decided to take a weeks vacation from everything that had to do with girls. It lasted until Thursday night... I never said I was good at resisting temptations.
However, I went out to a bar/social gathering and started talking to some random guy about whatever. True to form I get bored with him within 2 minutes. He is going on and on about some economy crap, business man style, complete mental valium. And I realize that there is a girl talking about her newly found religion to some guy a way off. I get into that conversation instead and ask her what religion that is. She opens up and starts telling me about whatever name that religion had. The interesting thing is that since I do not want to game I dont use any routines at all. I do not neg, I do not even DHV in any way. The only thing I do is to keep the conversation going, anything to stop talking about economy, she was my ticket away from that guy.
I realize that in order to keep her attention I fill out the gaps in my knowledge by telling her truisms, cold reading if you want.
"Oh, I see that you are a girl with a lot of xxxxxx, thats probably why this xxxx fits your personality." How did you know? "I just did, dont ask me but its obvious."
I have no problems talking to her at all, we have a nice conversation about beliefs (you should have seen her eyes when I tell her that I believe only 2 things, survival and replication, very funny).
After a while I get bored by her and wander off leaving her talking to some other guy. I get about 3 meters and a girl (who for some reason know my name, maybe she met someone I know or I introduced myself to her group or whatever, dont remember) reaches out to grab my arm. I go, Heeeeeeey!!!!! in order to cover the fact that I have no idea who she is. She tells me to have a seat and I do, we start talking and again I dont run game. I fill out the conversation with mini cold reads. Telling her stuff that could have been true for anyone but that has to do with the conversational topic. (Oh another thing, any time the conversational thread starts to decline I cut it and start a new one.) I happen to mention spirituality and psychology and she becomes completely stunned. She just loves it. She tells me about her "soulsearching" to find her own self. I mention that I do the same thing but have been doing it for nearly two years. (Well, becoming a PUA means learning a lot about yourself...)
So for every thing she wants to talk about I have experience or at least experience enough to sound like I know what I am talking about. I even cold read and extrapolate to give her good advice. Everything goes well and the words "lets talk again some time" just slips out. She hands me her businesscard, well I still havent called...
I was gonna meet up with my wing in another bar so I go over towards the exit. The first girl I talked to stops me and we exchange numbers.
I get two meters this time and spot a friend of mine. He is talking to some girls and I just move in to say hello to him and be off. But I get pulled in to the group by one of the girls. I cold read her origins (Swiss) and just bullshit about whatever, I assume that she is the GF of my friend so I dont push it, just keep conversation going. I stay there for like 15 minutes talking to the girl and then bounce them all to the next location. The girl hands me a piece of paper with her number and I realize that she is not my friends GF. Good thing too, she was cute.
So 3 number closes without even trying... What is my point with posting this story?
My point is, I did not use any routines (I know I have said that before) so I know that I did not flip any attraction switches like preselection, leader of men, social proof, etc etc. I did not purposedly DHV.
What does that mean? That means that I could use my cold reading skills to create a feeling of connection, understanding, sharing something. And I did that so well that no other DHVs were necessary. (Ok, maybe they sensed my attitude, body language, willinggness to walk away etc but still.)
I made a realization with this "sarge". Sometimes you might get away with just showing one single attraction switch very strongly. Just think about that some people go over the top with stuff like willingness to emote and it works. Hugh Hefner has major preselection and that is enough. Some actors have major good looks and that gets it done. Real social proof or protector of loved ones can also be used alone if they are strong enough...
Bottom line, the single attraction switch realization was just interesting but the cold reading bullshit to form a connection is gold.
Ezo
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