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There are three kinds of love according to sexual psychology (Yes, I took a class):
Companionship
Puppy Dog/Sweet Love
Passionate Love
I'm sure someone more well informed can lay out the proper name for these, but I'm not in the mood to google it.
Now the collection of all three types of love combined into love is called Agape, and this is more or less where you would find the PERFECT mate.
The bottom line is that if you had AGAPE then you wouldn't even contemplate pickup. It sounds like your brand of love falls short of agape, and is one of the above types of love or a combination of any two. Obviously you see pickup as the chance to game girls that would fit in the Agape category of love.
Also, you're 17 man. I can't remember how many times I told myself and other people I was in love when I was your age, but looking back on it now, several years later, I realize that there is actually wisdom in age. You'll see.
Psychology major here.
It sounds like you're referring to Sternberg's triangular theory of love . The 3 points of the triangle are Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion.
You're getting "Companionship" from the imperfect balance of combining only Intimacy and Commitment. That's Companionate Love. You get Romantic Love from combining Intimacy and Passion, and you get Fatuous Love from combining Passion and Commitment.
The thing you call "agape" is, from how I learned it, called Consummate Love. That's the perfect combination of all 3 elements.
However, I don't look toward already existing psychological theories when it comes to love, despite me being a psychology major. I still think that Sternberg's theory, although comprehensive, lacks the depth necessary to do justice in properly explaining love. I think eastern philosophy has the real answers there.
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