Guys, I am slipping slowly back into a vicious circle of negative self-belief..

I want to know how you guys do it, if you do actually do it.. how do you, and other people people stay on form, happy and confident in their own skin all the time? I am always so inconsistent in life, some days I wake up and feel energetic, social and really confident, talk to people alot and don't care what others think of me and everyone wants to be friends with me, and some days I wake up feeling like shit and convey it to everyone, hate my friends and can't be comfortable in my surroundings or with who I am as a person, but I just can't figure out why, maybe I'm worrying too much..

I used to be a very happy person but through getting pretty bad skin issues about a year ago and being too cripplingly shy to approach women until recently, I have started to slip.

You know that feeling when your on a roll? You feel really attractive, comfortable and dominant, like nothing in the world can touch you and even if someone says something harsh about you you don't even acknowledge it because your so happy in yourself and know their the ones that are insecure? I want that feeling all the time, and whenever I get it, I try to clutch on to it so damn hard that when it slips away I feel like I will never have it again and I feel down afterwards..

I want to learn to be less conscious of my self and stop over analysing situations and stop thinking so hard about what I say.. but it seems so damn hard. Am I alone in this or does anyone feel the same way?

Sorry about the 'wall of text' - thanks for any answers, if I get any.

Yeah I'm the same way man but I have no advice for you, just wanted to sympathize with you. I hate it and I wish I could change...Somebody post a reply.

Nah, you're not alone dude. It sucks not wanting to go to sleep, because you are not sure what mood might come up the next day. Oh and another pain in the ass is the feeling that everyone around ya is socialy confident and that you are alone in the world feeling this shitty.

Ahhhh. its so good to know you are not alone deep in this shit.

I struggle with problems very similar to yours. The first step is to identify what it is that's causing you these problems. For me the biggest issue was/is my life style. I'm an engineering student working my way through school. I pay for everything on my own and have to deal with stress and very large workloads at school and at work. This has led to poor sleeping habits, eating habits, and social habits. Over the last year my confidence level has drop significantly and I find many days I have a very introverted and depressed attitude.

My solution:

If I get 8 hrs of sleep, exercise, and eat healthy, I consistently feel happier and more confident about myself. It doesn't even take much. I do about 50 push-ups before I go to sleep, I get up early and start the day with breakfast, then walk to school. I make sure I have a good dinner and try to spend at least a little time each day doing something relaxing away from home or school.

Other things that have helped is to get out of the house. I used to spend all my time studying at home. I now get out and study on campus or at a coffee house, where I can still have social interactions. It also helps to not continuously analyze your actions. You can be your own worst critic and cause yourself these problems.

Each one of you will probably have different causes but you should always identify these troubled areas of your life and try to improve them.

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