So my gf and I are hanging out and her ex from a while back text her saying "I miss you"....she laughs about it and showed me and I called him from her phone and told him that I was her BF and would appreciate it if he didn't text here anymore....so I hung up and didnt think any thing of it until after she left and then I really started to think about it! I started think why would he have txt that? have they been talking? is this the first time this has happend? Im not at all a jealous guy but this really does bother me! I did think I could trust her 100% but now Im kinda sketched out....need some advice here guys.

Ohhh intresting I had a familior case with my x well let me tell u some thin, to a girl a bog a freand never and I mean never espeicaly a gf and yea it's okay to tell her u trust her. Bt don't trust them 100 %. Now if you realy vein going out with her. ; a big wail and it's going to go to a merige or something b like I wana C ur cellphone bill. Now if she haves tim mobbil you can go to the wb site andy gust need her number and hut passwerd and get her paswerd somehow. Aniway well you can chek her calls hu have she be textin and even u can c what they b textin abut. And onother thing star to isolate her not to much but lil by lil. And tray to have fun with her b romantic don't du the same things u du all the time. Because if they were talkin to echuder may b was because she was getin bord of you and last Intrest on u. Don't worry is normal. (now a hint) (fuck her alut) gust incase u al brake up u don't leav like this sain oh I shud of duck her. Kinda mean but hey it's true . Now messeg me if u have a cuestion. Sorry 4 bad gramer. I wrot alut with this stupid iphone.

one "I miss you..." message from an ex isnt a big deal. At least when youre gf doesnt respond to it...

if there is more cummunication, thats another case
talk about it with her but dont show to much jealousy

Well first of all im not going to tell her to give me her phone bill....that would be controling and I want to be open with her and not be sneaky. I think I might just talk to her tonight and tell her that her ex texting her really bothers me and ask her if she has texted him back...mabey make it clear to her that I am not cool with her talking to her ex's just like I wouldnt talk to mine. Her and I have alot of fun when we are togeather! and the relationship is not at all boring....the sex is good and on avg I would say we have sex about once a week and somtimes more depending.

I thought every thing was fine but honestly it seems really sketchy! she also lied when we first started dating....a guy in the bar talked to her and I asked her who he was....she told me he was no one just a friend and I found out about a month later that he was somone she has dated for a short time. That happend a long time ago! when we first started dating but now it makes me think mabey she is hiding somthing? we have a great relationship and never fight! but this really bugs me!

I dunno dude, your emotions are finely calibrated through millions of years of evolution. Given that you said you used to trust her 100%, you are obviously not a naturally jealous guy. The emotion has been triggered for a reason and given that you are going to the lengths of posting this on an online forum I'd be surprised if there wasn't something going on.

Come to think of it she has told me many times that she doesnt trust me yet and thinks I would cheat given the chance....she said it was because I know so many women and before we went out she could see me as a player....but really mabey she was just trying to make her self feel better and justify her actions (talking to an ex). They always say if a girl accuses you of cheating that she her self is prob cheating.

or perhaps I am over thinking it and she really is being honest? The only way I can find out woud be to talk to her about it? tell her that her ex texting really bothers me and ask her if she has texted back?

Her cheating would be my nightmare! because I would drop her the second I found out so I really hope she is being honest!

This sounds like an unsolicited text message that appeared out of the blue. It probably means the ex hasn't been laid in a while. The fact that she showed it to you means she has nothing to hide.

Sounds a little bit shady what with her saying that she thinks you will cheat on her the chance you get? That is just stupid. Could be she only showed you to come off as "honest" but only did not continue the thread with him at the time because you were with her... I don't know her as a person so who knows.. Let me know how this turns out, I am very interested.

I talked to her and told her it bothers me that her ex is txting her...I also asked if she txted him back. She looked me in the eyes and told me no she didnt txt him and she blocked his number right in front of me. I told her I felt a little stupid about the whole thing but she loved the fact that I cared so it all worked out in the end...she really has not given me any reason not to trust her so I do.

I think you went a little too far calling him and telling him not to talk to her again. My girl's exes talk to her every now and then, it's one of the downsides of dating an attractive girl. They all miss what they had and realize they screwed up. Hell one has even visited her at work a few times, but she always tells me when he does. He has a girlfriend anyways and she told me seeing him made her realize how much she loves me. Now if any one of them tried to get he back, I'd have a problem with that. As long as she tells you when it happens it's not a big deal.

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