Hey Adam, so ive been seeing this super hot hb for the past month now and ive ran into a bit of a problem. Shes had a ton of ltr's, i've had like none. This isnt the problem though she broke up with a lot of these boyfriends because they went off to play junior hockey and i know they text her alot. Recently she kindve got really weird after reading a text when we were chilling at my place and kind of got flustered. She sent me text saying she was sorry after and i told that it was fin ei had a good time and that i know i dont know her very well yet but i think she should not overthink things and just let them happen and that i hoped to get to know her better in the future. She respond with haha yea i think its just because everythings happening so fast at school and stuff and that she had a good time too. Not really what I was looking for.

Anyways, i dunno what to do now im going to see her at this formal event on friday but I feel like she really hasnt opened up to me. I dunno if I should try to step it up or back off a bit now. Any suggestions? Also she talks about how everybody thinks shes innocent but shes really not at all and she backs this up when texting but weve only made out so far and i try to kino a lot but she doesnt kino back much. I seriously dont think this is a lack of attraction and more just her being guarded still. Any inputs appreciated. Thanks.

Adam, Im too dumb to metagame, I always in my life has been not-so-creative/too much thinking inside the box.. cant seem to think outside the box, or see the big picture, any hints on that or getting more intelligent, to be able to metagame, like you do in game or magic or d&d, I just want some tips on that so I can metagame my life

Dear Smartass,

Firstly I love the fact that I can call you that and you wont be offended and secondly I think that is a really good question.

Okay many people know me for my work on social circle game and would think I would instantly chose that, but I wouldn't pick either.In fact picking just one of them is an injustice to game, you have to run both of them to get the most out of it.

When I joined the community I want to be surrounded by women, I wanted the playboy lifestyle so back in London the boys and I would go out and game a large number of chicks, then we'd bring a minimum of ten girls out with us each and spend the night partying with at least sixty women to six guys.

Those kind of numbers make game very easy, but to make that happen you need to be cold approaching in the first place, only when you mix cold approaching and social circle do you really see the power of game and are you surrounded by women at all times.

Try both out, set up an event and invite every girl you meet for the next month to the event and see what happens ;0)

AFC Adam,

Dear Topdown,

Thank you very much for being so supportive, It's always good to know my work is helping people out. I'm glad your part of the VIP area of my site, let me know if you have any suggestions to improve it (in private of course) I'm always on the lookout to make it better.

Initial Comfort:

Your right there are a couple of universal ways to add value..

1 make them laugh – laughter is a universal trait that is sought out by everyone, you can be sure that if their laughing they are liking you but there is a catch, they have to be laughing with you and not at you. I've seen plenty of people who play the clown as it gets hot girls to laugh and lets him talk to hot girls for a while until their amusement with him disappears and then so do they. To ensure you don't end up like this make sure you see it as you're bringing them in on the joke as opposed to trying to make them laugh.

2 putting someone in contact with another who could help them is an amazing way of adding value, it's impressive too, if your talking to a model and you have a friend who's good a retoucher and you can get her pics to look better by putting them in touch, she will value that immensely and love you for it, always be on the look out to help people with work via the people you know, the best way to do this is to network constantly, soon you'll be able to offer people exchange of value via networking and you'll be a connected guy.

3 Be polite, friendly and fun

When I first go into set I'm always as nice as I can possibly be to ensure I have comfort then I break rapport to spice things up and add value by making sure they are having fun in my company, little games, light conversation (usually about our surroundings or funny situations that we or our friends are in) good banter is key, if your not good at that don't worry neither was I, keep talking to people in everyday life at every opportunity and you'll see a difference in your conversation skills. Also keep an eye out for when the girl(s) levels of fun are decreasing and suggest things to change it, (lets grab some food, lets go on the dance floor, lets go to this cool little bar round the corner) be enthusiastic and lead them to fun.

Typically when you add value, the default reaction is comfort. We put our guards up when around people who take and we relax around people who give, makes sense really :0)

haha thanks mate, I'm really happy your getting something out of the site, I did it all myself... it demands quite a lot of my time and is more high maintenance than any girl I've ever been with but it's my baby

AFC Adam,

Dear Ace Rimmer,

No worries buddy, Glad I could help and be sure to let me know how it goes!

AFC Adam,

Dear Gruuve,

That's great buddy, I look forward to seeing you there. I warn you now though I will be expecting everyone to push themselves, there's no way my bootcamps are just taking notes on theory

I have absolutely no idea mate, I'm useless with travel and hotels. Luckily I have Amanda to take care of that. I suggest good old google and a bit of research which is far more reliable than any information I can give you about the area.

Thank you very much for the offer but we've already sorted out our travel from the airport and it would be a hassle to change it now. We're going to have a lot of fun, rest up and arrive expecting hard work, fun and adventure!

AFC Adam,

Dear rjb773,

Haha I'm glad you like my work thanks mate it means a lot to me

Very good question mate, I'm sure there are a lot of views about this.

My own personal opinion is that some methods of game out there require a strong sense of self and demand a lot of life experience and most 16 year olds have neither, which can mess them up if they carried on with it as they would assume other pre-existing routines which would in effect turn make them assume another personality instead of finding their own.


My main suggestion for the young crowd such as yourself is to run social circle game. Focus on increasing your existing circle of friends and add value to all. if you focus on this now and for the next couple of years you will have laid an ideal foundation to start other aspects of game such as rocking up to a club with 20 of your closest female friends (preselection, social proof) and gaming other girls in the club from a great position.

If i was in your shoes, my target would be my school/college and my aim would be to game my way to being the coolest kid at school by adding value to everyone, leading the people to what they want and setting up cool events, aim to be the most connected guy in school but dont join any one group in particular be part of them all and see just how easy game can be.


Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear Sinister1,

Okay, breaking up couples is just not cool in my opinion and I don't tell people how to do it so the following advice I am giving is on the assumption that it was a shit test as opposed to her having a boyfriend.

Okay moral implications aside yes you can get past it, if you know it's on but need the final tweak then it's very doable. The focus is on giving her justified reasons.

When you lead the interaction you need to give her a justified reason for every step,

“lets go to the dance floor because I need to burn off this red bull or I'll never get to sleep”
“lets go to the quieter part of the club because my ears hurt from the speakers”
“lets get out of here and go to get some food, I am starving”

if it's truly on and she likes you, she'll go with each justification because she has plausible deniability, then it's your job to get her horny and escalate smoothly and quickly.

Also, disqualifying yourself from the girl is extremely powerful and can be essential depending on the situation but in this case the girl was into you and the interaction so it's not vital, but maybe something for you to think about.

Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear tbk183lp,

Yep all of our instructors are capable of demoing anytime and our infield work will be very instructor orientated but the focus remains on our students and we expect all of our students to be pushing themselves and ignoring the infield instructors by talking to girls whenever possible.

Going out with guys who are not so good with women can be tricky especially when they look at you like a puzzle that needs solving.

The best thing to do is to separate the two areas of your life until you can handle both of them becoming one, when you feel your at the right place and can carry more than your own weight in set bring them in on it and point them in the right direction, until then just game by yourself or away from them in the same venue, also be careful as to how they observe you, when people try to improve themselves jealousy tends to kick in and your friends may want to pull you back down because your desire to improve makes them feel bad about their lack of desire.

Hope this helps mate,
AFC Adam

Dear Cococo,

Honestly Size does not matter, My original pick up instructor has been dating the number one Madonna tribute act for the last two years, she's actually the reason that he left the community, he freely admits that he has a small penis but he is also a certified masseuse and she says he is amazing with his hands...

“I may have one small penis but I have ten fingers” is what he says.

Most women don't actually cum through penetrative sex, which means most of the women out there don't orgasm very often, learn how to make a woman squirt and I guarantee you will give her the best orgasm she's ever had, she'll never forget it and she couldn't care less about the size of your member.

We all have things that are not perfect about us, unfortunately penis size is something we can do nothing about, I assure you it's no way near as bad as the insecurities of it in our minds but as with all things in life, you may have been given a bum hand but it's how you play it that counts.

Focus on giving women the best orgasms they've ever had, focus on being a giver in bed and I promise you, they will think your amazing in bed.

Aside from that I think Gruuve's reply to your question is pretty on the money. Nice one mate

Hope this helps,
AFC Adam,

Dear Gruuve

Solid advice buddy, thanks for stepping in :0)

AFC Adam,

Dear totti_07

Dude I hate to say it but she has to want to be with you, you cant force her and if she really isn't making an effort you may want to reconsider the whole thing, however...

What I would do if I were you would be to initially lead the interaction more, arrange fun evenings out and even invite her friends, add value to them all and once she has built up a positive association of meeting up with you she should start meeting you out of her own doing (this is called operant conditioning in psychology)

Hope this helps mate
AFC Adam,

Dear DallyingDreamer,

Mate thank you so much for the kind words, really does mean a lot to me :0) I look forward to seeing you at the bootcamp, be prepared for a lot of learning, practicing and fun!

ADC Adam,

Dear tbk183lp,

LOL

AFC Adam,

Dear *olie*

Good question mate,

I believe that one of the first things someone should know about game and the community is that it's free, you cant put a price on love happiness or even experience with the opposite sex and the only true teacher is the field.

If you go at it alone you will eventually get good, if you hire an instructor all that will happen is that it will greatly reduce your learning curve as you wont be wasting time on things that wont work. A lot of the guys who see me don't have time to go out 4 -5 nights a week and many of them require advice specific to their lifestyle/situation/goals. In these cases the feel it's a fair exchange for my fee and are very happy with the results.

A major problem with the community is that it is an unregulated industry, there are now laws or rules as such, more of a code of honour but unfortunately there are quite a few people out there trying to make a quick buck and capitalize on the insecurities of virgins and guys with very little experience.

Hero worship is not a healthy trait at all, yes you should learn from the people you like but the guru's are regular guys just like everyone else, they've just put in the hours everyone else should, a clever person will find his own truth by listening to what's being said, trying it out in field multiple times and finally takes or discards the results based on the results.

On the whole and despite it's flaws (which are many) the community is a positive male movement and gives men the opportunity to succeed in an area where most had lost all hope and had no idea what to do about it. The community had changed my life forever and I am forever grateful for it and will continue to give back all that I can to it.

AFC Adam,