Yes guys
I had to share this amazing thought with you. Through our everyday life our mind tries captures different signals and stimuli as to what we are supposed to feel. If you had a terrible day at work or got rejected by a girl your mind automatically triggers negative emotions, if you have gotten a really good date and a promotion your brain automatically triggers a positive reaction.

This is the natural way and there is nothing wrong with it the probably , but for it to rule your life will make a problem.

As a person who is facing challenges daily I learned that with every negative thought your received you reframe it into something positive. Now remember negatives thoughts or feedbacks from the enviroment around can range from bulky to insignificant example (Im going to raise the level of negative beleifs according to my opinion):

1- You trip as you walk down the street and think people are laughin at you

2- You get into a fight with someone because he hit your car

3- You approach a whore and she gives you the finger

4- You approach a women you just came accross the street and you have no interest in her just testing your skills

5- You aproach a women you always liked and she rejects your offer

6- Your loved one dies or passes away


These are examples of negative events that happen around us and that our brain takes them in and triggers your self behaviour. Notice that some are high negativity and some are low . As a metaphor when your swimmin and a small wave hits you keep swimmin because you KNOW you can handle it but when a bigger comes through and pushes you all the way down if you lose control of yourself thats it gameover because you let your fear surpass you.


As a good practice always take the negative thought and just reframe it on your head if THAT still has a negative affect on you you do what is best and the final solution to kill those negative beleifs or events . Blow off a steam of air and say FUCK IT.

Lets take the above examples and turn them into positive beleifs:

1-I tripped so what

2-You stand up for yourself in case the fault was on the other person keep yourself calm and collected without having to get into a fight because you know for sure he is the faulty one

3-Who gives a shit she is a girl you will not see again plus remember not every girl you approach is an angel she could be a psycho that you dont want to end up with , if she is not well she lost her chance with someone who would respect her and treat her like a women should be treated.

4- Same goes as the line above except you know tht person and hey rejections are not a bad thing imagine a girl you didnt like wanted to go out with you how would you feel ?

5-Same as 4

6- Yes the lost of a loved one is hard and its your right to feel sad on the contrary you should embrace it , however would that person want you to weep all your life away ? Dont think so , remember that this is just a natural part of life and there is nothing you can do to stop it , just delay it.

Negative thoughts conqure our minds even when you dont know they are there sometimes they are so subtle but your reaction towards it is so obvious , always ask yourself why am I acting the way Im acting right now ? A week earlier I was chilled and acted another way then why am I acting like this right now?

Find the source and reframe it and trust me you are not BS yourself because in everything in life there is two faces of the coin and two or even more way to look at it , just keep in mind to stay on the common sense side.


From the planet of Love ,
AVK

wow buddy, this is great! really very insightful, makes sense, i smell a future puaaa guruu. lol

I understand what you are saying, the process that is going on with negative limiting beliefs, however your examples, never really where flipped to become an actual positive. Instead they simple showed a different train of thought.

For those people that may have a real confidence issue, simply saying "i tripped so what" will not help them overcome the confidence issues. It may even distract them from the issue, while it becomes a more severe problem because they never addressed the issue.

Turning a negative into a positive is age old technique, as long as its an actual positive. What i see you trying to say, is to change the reaction to the outcome, to place less importance on the outcome and see the situation as it truly is, simply another situation in life, one where you either give importance to or not....the better answer is not...

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

thats very deep D.C. could u maybe start a thread with a more elaborated insight into overcoming and building a solid foundation for natural confidence? i feel like u would explain it very well to my liking.

food for thought, until then im sure you can search and find other things i have posted.

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."