| Went on holiday to another country for a couple of weddings, met a girl who happened to be the grooms future niece in law & hit it off straight away. Played the game one her, went down the C&F routine the whole night which worked a treat and made her chase me for the night of the wedding & the next night we all went out, we kissed. Spent the last 3 days of my holiday together, having a great time & enjoying each others company.
Now we parted ways, she went back to her country, I went back to mine which just happens to be a 3 1/2 hr plane flight away and i find myself not being able to get this girl out of my head. Anyway for 2 weeks straight we spoke on SPAM or the phone for over an hour every night, texting all the time & after a week of that I thought "screw this, I'm going over to see her to suss out what is happening". Tell her I'm coming over, she gets all excited, telling me she misses me & can't wait to see me.
Fast forward to a couple of Fridays ago, she picks me up and kisses me when we see each other & head off to a BBQ at her place where I meet some of her friends & catch up with my sister who happens to be friends with her already. She's pretty affectionate towards me & we're getting on great like a new relationship would.
Head out the next day for a day at the beach with her friends & things are good there, people taking photos of us that look real "couply" and we act like a couple the whole day, then get home & spend the whole night "macking" so to speak.
Sunday comes round and she's a little grumpy which is fine, don't really think anything of it and by the time lunchtime comes around she's back to her affectionate self with me. We go home that night & watch a movie, she's all cuddly & we kiss some more, and since i decided i really like this girl, the movie finishes so I pose the question "What exactly are we?"
She goes "I don't know, I really like you & we have a connection but I don't want a relationship right now. We are both at different experience levels like you have been engaged before & I have never had a boyfriend and I am just coming up to the fun stage of my life & have another 4 years of study ahead of me." (key thing to keep in mind here is she is 17 whilst I am early 20's). She then went on to say how she has had friends who have had BF's early in life & then broken up & regret it because they missed out on "being 18". She said she still wanted to talk. I told her I was prepared to wait & being in different countries would help this & then we got interrupted & never finished our conversation.
Next morning I was due to leave & we hugged goodbye & she sent me a text saying that she was glad I came over, she had fun with me & that she's going to miss me. She even got sad when she looked in my empty room.
The next plan was to meet up with her & family on holiday in my country & now she gave me the cold shoulder & doesn't want me to come now even just as friends, which is fine, I can deal with that.
So given the above story, tell me what I did wrong.
Here are my theories
1. I gave up my "Ace of Spades" card way to early, she realised this and i lost the advantage I had over her and she got bored
2. She just decided she wasn't interested and played the "LJBF" card
3. She honestly just isn't ready for a relationship.
Now i haven't heard from her in over a week and I want to regain that Ace of Spades card. I haven't been a prick to her or anything since that Sunday night, so how do I get her to make her want me again?
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