Great forum, loads to learn here and a great community.

Here's a bit of my story,

I'm a 31 year old married man and I have spent the last 12 years in 2 long term relationships. I let myself get seriously out of shape and have just managed to lose 60lb of fat and muscle up some. I've gone back to uni to study and have found myself surrounded by attractive 19-25 year olds.

I'm naturally C&F and have had loads of fun teasing the girls in my classes. Since I lost the weight I have found myself as alpha of the group and have been really pushing the boundaries with my humour.

The UNI arranged a field trip abroad and during the trip a few girls made themselves known to me by jumping into my bed in the middle of the night and basically throwing themselves at me. I don't know how I managed it but I refused them!!

However, since I got back from the trip two of them have continued to show high levels of interest and I have spent time with both of them kissed and touched etc..
Both of them have boyfriends, but have explained they need more sex.

The first one is pretty cool, she isn't at all clingy and knows it will happen when it happens.

I went on a date with the second one and it went quite well, however I'm a horny bastard and I think I spooked her a bit and took her out of her comfort zone. The next day I saw her and I sort of knew she had doubts so I let her go. In the afternoon the class went out for drinks, and while we were out a couple of the other girls decided they wanted to feel me up for a laugh. When we were back in class I got a text on my phone and she explained that she wished it were her feeling me up and that we should meet up after UNI. I went out of the class to get some water and she followed me and grabbed hold of me in the hallway and we kissed.

She went home and I had to meet my wife, this morning I get a text telling me she had just split with her BF and she is single now. We chatted online for a bit and decided to meet at a hotel in a few days time.

The thing is I have never slept with another woman other than my wife for 7 years. After going through some changes in my appearance and aggression levels, my life is electric, women are throwing themselves at me and I love it. In the back of my mind I know what I'm doing is wrong and could lead to my wife getting hurt.

I'd like to hear from anyone who has or is going through something similar, ,and hear the pros and cons of cheating on your wife.

Sorry for the long post but I had to get it off my chest somehow.

There are no pros to cheating on your wife.

Either end it with her or get marriage counseling.

Or go off and cheat on her and never tell her, just know you'll be scum after that.

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Well a pro is definetly that short-term you get what you want! But depending on what kind of person you are, feeling of guilt might eat you up or just bother you, or it doesn't affect you at all
Also think of the trouble when your wife finds out! I can't imagine how you think of your wife after 7 years being together (if there's a sexual problem, or if you feel of her not being good enough anymore after you muscled up, or if you just need variety in your sex life, etc etc) but have you considered being honest with your wife?

Is she conservative and making out with other people is a no-go? Or might she understand if you told her? After all if she understands and lets you do what you want, it will just strenghten the connection between you too.

Agreed

Don't do it, man. You've spent all that time building a life with someone and you're going to throw it away for some flattery and cheap thrills. It doesn't make sense. You're going to screw yourself over along with your wife.

marriage counselling is obviously the ticket.
maybe you can rekindle that excitement that you once had when you guys were getting to know each other.

But one thing is for sure, if you wanna sleep well at night I suggest being open and deciding what you really want matey.

2 cents