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My most extreme line was, "aww thats cute, brunettes just arnt my thing" (she was a brunette).
Actually . . . I think this has been a great discussion and until fat_vagina added exactly why he thought my c/f was out of whack, (the man meat line) I couldn't really see what he felt was so wrong with it.
Sure, you can always go overboard with anything. This line above ^^, I would say isn't arrogant, nor a "neg" but crosses the line towards what could be perceived as an "insult". Even if I am forward . . . "Wow, I'd love to fuck you. . ." or "I don't know if I could date a girl who's ________", . . . even I wouldn't point out a physical trait in a negative light. Women are all about looks and they know that . . .
Although I would say even that , there are times you could probably pull it off . . . Thus I supose the imortance in calibrating.
The overly sexual thing . . .
This could be one of the most "confusing" things to calibrate because women in our society are taught that we don't discuss such things with strangers right away. Girls won't typically, "Right on! Yeah, I want your dick shoved all the way up to my stomach!! High five!" (But do you have any doubts women LOVE to hear this from a guy?) They love to hear that they are sexually desirable.
However, it is up to the man, (especially if you're going C/F) to bring up the sexual topic. If the girl decides to play along, you just keep going up the ladder. If you can tell she's a bit squirrely, you can still keep up with the sexual talk a bit then I tend to just drop it ALL together and segway to a completely mundane topic. (This to me is a slight form of punishment. Instead of talking about how sexy, beautifu, and hot the girl is and instead of talking about how I'd love to make love with her, now all she gets to hear is how a certain cocktail kicks ass)
9 out of 10 in these cases, girls will on their OWN, bring back the sexual topic. Now they know that you are comfortable with sexual conversations. Now they know that you are a sexual being. Now they know that you are sexually attracted to her. She might not be direct as you . . ."So, you must have so many girlfriends" . . . or "Hey, see that girl? She's hot, don't you think?" . . . These are invitations to go right back to the topic that turns her on. The second time around, they ALWAYS play along . . .