There's this girl in my class that I'm totally in love with.

Problem: She is engaged!

I just want to ask what the best ways are to get rid of these feelings? I believe they are temporary, and I don't wanna love her because it seems as if she is going to be together with this guy for the rest of her life. By the way, I'm 17 and so is she.

Help me out here. I heard sarging is a way to cure one-iris'. However, I'm not good enough to sarge and get anybody I desire, so I'm stuck!

All help appreciated.

Oh I know how you feel dude...I definitely do! My 4 month GF dumped me (due to us going away on seperate vacations for 1 month) and got married at the end of that same month. This was 2 months ago. Seen her only once since then - problem is I still love her and can't get her out of my head, everyday I wake up and go to bed with her in my mind. I'm a pretty good PUA and I've sarged and gotten in touch with loads of girls since then but I still love her with all my heart and I've undertaken the impossible mission of getting her to divorce that guy and get back with me. In my opinion nothing is impossible as long as you push the right buttons and do the right things - I've consulted with loads of PUAs and loads have confirmed - no matter the problem - bf , husband or anything else - it can be overcomed - you just have to undertake the right steps and do the right things. However if you believe you can try and forget her - do try that - unless you're willing to die for her - it ain't worth it. For my ex... I am willing so...no other choice...

Some more advice: Just get into being a PUA overall - read The Game, read the Mystery Method, Watch some PUA vids on youtube - read all the important stuff on the forum and try to get into it - eventually you might end up being succesfull and forget her. Otherwise you'll still improve your chances LOADS of times if you get into the whole thing rather than just sit back and do nothing. (DON'T EVER GO IN AND CONFESS YOUR FEELINGS TO HER, If she's a typical girl - you'll end up looking pathetic and miserable and you'll just make things worse).

Good Luck!

I am so glad to hear from a guy that has the same problem. I feel bad for you, because your situation seems to be worse... However, here is how she is killing me:

* She is my friend
* She enjoys hugging, kissing and other sexual stuff with me (but she is not interested)
* She keeps talking about her boyfriend all the time and how she loves him.

ETC.
All of this is totally killing me...

Example situation:
I was lying in bed one time, and she came to me and lay on top of me! That's not all. She started moaning and faking orgasms to pretend as if we had sex. It was really funny to her, but I can't explain how I just wanted to die at that moment.

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I have read "The Game", watched MANY PUA video on YouTube and I am reading "The Mystery Method" right now. There is not a single day of my life that I am not studying this.

Problem is that I'm 17, can't sarge in clubs or anything and I barely make any approaches at all! I just want these feelings to go away, because they are growing bigger as time goes...

What are some good ways to get rid of these feelings then? Btw, I'm sorry for everything you've been through. I wish you all the luck man :/

Any other PUA's with some advice? I need as much as possible to go with.

Nevermind2004, you need to snap the fuck out of the trance you're in man. Yes, the mentality in the pickup community is that it doesn't matter whether she has a boyfriend or husband (if you're willing to be that guy) but the mentality is also that being that lost over one girl is totally unhealthy and ridiculous. Rather than spending your time learning tactics to win her back, you should do some deep introspection and figure out why it is you feel you need her so much. Not to mention the old mantra of GFTOW. Honestly the picture of you sitting in your basement devouring pickup material while she and her husband are off frolicking in meadows having fun is borderline scary.

I don't say this to hurt you but you need to straighten this out. Do you think this girl is going to make you happy? EVEN IF you succeeded in gaming her out of her marriage, would you ever feel safe knowing how she had betrayed her own husband to be with you? If it can happen once it can happen again. I don't know if you are emotionally prepared to deal with the results you seek (I wouldn't be).

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Zentrode, the field-tested way to get rid of the neediness you feel towards her (make no mistake, that's what it is) is to go sarge other women. I'm not just paying you lip service here. 2 months ago I broke up with the girl I thought I'd 'loved' since 9th grade (I'm almost done university now). Right after this happened it was exams and I never had time to go out and I felt like a piece of shit. Neediness, loneliness -- you name it. It felt like she was the one and I'd made the biggest mistake of my life. All of these feelings went away the second I stepped foot into the bar.

Your mind is playing tricks on you, making you think this girl is the messiah and will save your life.

I see what you are saying, and it seems logical. However, I have the same problem as you had before. With the exams. I am totally packed with homework, exams and projects. There is NO way I can go out sarging any time soon. When the time comes, I will sarge.

But in the meantime, will it help if I for example stayed away from her? Or if I made a total freeze out by ignoring calls, messages and any other contact?

I am just looking for a temporary solution, until I can go out sarging again. Thanks for the advice though, it was helpful!

During exams I did some online dating. Give it a try!

Love obviously makes people go crazy and make ridiculous choices. I have def loved someone, but lost them eventually. Its the hardest time of your life to have that feeling of rejection, especially if you already had her. Its hard BUT IT WILL EVENTUALLY GO AWAY. Its gonna take time. There is a difference between being in love and being infatuated with something. It gets worse when its something you can't have.

This is one thing that concerns me about the whole PUA community is that people will sabotage strong and loving relationships for their own selfish reasons. Don't be a d*ck. Too much emphasis is put on the actual PUA part, but not on how to build strong and healthy relationships. Part of being a PUA is to learn how to become a man and in part, learning to move on. You don't win all of your battles...even if you could, would u really want to?? I know my words will not be exactly what you are looking for but sometimes you just got to man up and move on. Cheers

Your pal,
Risen

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I know, you are totally right. I'm actually glad that somebody told me the truth and explained how life is a "bitch". I see what you are saying, even though it wasn't helpful exactly But it doesn't matter now, I guess you're right.

Just tell me: If I stay away from her, break contact or freeze out for a while, will it help?

Thank you.

Find other girls. That will always help.

IMO if she's engaged at 17 - that's just a stupid teenage thing. I was "engaged" at 17 too

Haha really? Nice. Well I know this sounds stupid, but they seem to be really serious about this and rarely ever have a fight. They're like perfect for each other, lol... But thanks for the encouragment xD

I'll ask again: Will freeze outs or something like that help me? Somebody just quickly answer this Thanks.

You can't really "freeze out" anyone who's not desperately wanting to be with you, so that's probably the wrong term.

Honestly - in my experience, you will never lose feelings for someone you liked, no matter how much time you spend away from them or spend being friends with them. But if you start seeing other girls, those feelings will still be there - but they won't be a problem anymore It's called "moving on".

Frankly, this girl is being very selfish too, playing with your feelings like that. I know people who've done this to me too. Even if they don't know how the other person feels, they should have some idea of the effect of their actions. In my case seeing the other person less often did help. I could get over them more easily that way. I don't know if you want to lose this friendship, though. If I were you I would try to concentrate on other stuff, tell her that you're busy and try to see less of her, she's probably distracting you from everything else going on in your life. Hang out with your other friends, study for your exams and when they're done go out and meet new people. You'll get over her, don't worry!

I like what I'm seeing here. To be honest, during these past few weeks, I have learned to calm my feelings down a little bit.

The good news is that I've masturbated less as well because of her I guess I'll just find a time to sarge or something, and hope for the best.

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE HELP.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO WRITE ANYTHING ELSE HERE. LET THIS THREAD DIE.

Would be embarassing if my friends saw this. They're members here, so it's dangerous.

Thanks again and good luck to you all. Now kill this thread.

Engaged at 17? What a fucking joke. If you can't shake your desire for her just try throwing it out there you know. Try to remind her that shell be missing out on a lot of fun if she decides to get married at such a young age. Thats ridiculous! But I agree if you believe in manogamy and the sanctity of marriage and all that shit just walk away and exam other beauties.

Been there, done that. She loves hanging out with me and is extremely happy each and every time she sees me. She even expresses her happiness with orgasmic sound making, some times.

Still, she won't give up on her boyfriend. And I'm not trying to make her. As long as she is happy.

My goal: Get rid of these feelings!
Problem: I can't sarge. Too much schoolwork, and I have started to get acne! Sarging is IMPOSSIBLE.

What other ways can I get rid of love feelings? Stay away from her?