I dont have any social proof at all. i have tried building one but have had no luck .

girls = like if a guy has somewhat of a social proof, knows people. i dont know many if any at all.

i have alot of acquaintances but they seem to have their own thing going on and i dont get invited when hanging around w/ them.

Go into a venue and create your own social proof out of thin air. You do this by opening and talking to EVERYONE! You talk to guys, girls, young people, old people, hired guns, bartenders, bouncers, whoever! You become "Mr. Social" in a way. It doesn't matter so much what you talk about just as long as you are seen talking to people.

The more you go to these places and chat up these people the regulars and workers then you will instantly be able to walk in later on and have friends there. Hence, "Instant Social Proof" when you walk in you're talking to all your friends who "work" there or are "regulars" there.

By the time you approach a set you've already talked to several people.

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jsmooth has got it down...when you walk up to your first bartender just start some small talk and then they start introducing you to other people...this works when you dont know anyone at that bar/club

May I give you some of my experience with social circles and "Social Game?"

About instantly creating it - JSmooth is right.

About social circles though
The vast majority of men try to hang out with the coolest group of people so people will think they're cool too...but in my experience, the "reverse psychology" can be THAT much more effective. Let me show you:

1. At any given birthday, I show up with a large group of the most boring guys and girls around..and our numbers usually dominate the place...BORING the place to death. But what do I do? I tease, I'm being playful, I'm making jokes, being mysterious etc. >>> it doesn't take long for me to become the life of the party and meet lots of women. WHY?
Let a woman enter a room with a dusty, boring *ss librarian and a lame comedian to talk to...who will she like to talk to? The comedian, even if he IS lame...because he's cool IN CONTRAST. I call this my "Contrast Game", and it has worked wonders for me.

2. Some more Contrast Game: there are LOTS of events that are supposed to be boring as hell to the general public: art galleries, museums, operas, theatres, book stores..because the CROWD is boring. Until I come in, I just do my playful, mysterious, sexual thing..and will seem like a GOD, because the rest is really, reaaaally boring.

I could do the same for college (hang out with the most boring people), at work, in my family, etc.

Hanging around women is nice, hanging around men maybe even better
yes women will let other girls know that you're comfortable around women, that you're desirable, you're confident, they can teach you many things while hanging out with them, etc. 100% true.

But we're forgetting OTHER MEN here: men who are naturally good with women. Every village, town and city has one (or several)...the fisherman who seduces women on his boat, the 60 year old guy in the park who may seem dull - but is in fact contemplating all this conquests with his 40 years of experience as a natural...they're all around.

You never know who's a natural either, that's for damn sure. I've met dozens of them in my life: basketballers, school teachers, my seemingly boring boss at work, etc.

So befriend a guy, watch him closely as he interacts with women...and tell how you love women, love the chase, love seduction..and if they're a natural? You'll either see it or THEY will see they can trust you with their stories.

The essence of a natural is: he made HIS unique circumstances work to meet all the women he wants, therefore NO natural is the same as the next natural...do you understand what this means?

It means that EVERY natural can teach you hidden gems of game - how to meet and date women..they have their little tricks, their little routines, and lines, and openers, and frankly..they only have 'em, so detection? Forget about it...paying for it? They're FREE.

There's endless game out there, for FREE...if only you create a social circle FILLED with naturals for yourself.

Enjoy

i got another questions relating to this thread .. i didnt feel like starting a new one.

how do you build one when you dont go to clubs, or cant because of 11PM curfew. and when your friends arent outgoing and the only places that they do go to is strip clubs . where you cant go b/c your underage.

i let go of my old group completely and started hanging out with co workers who are now quite similiar to my old group. not very outgoing, vibrant, cant roll with it. what do i do now ....

i dont like sarging or doing stuff alone ... in my classes people are introverts .... or have big ass egos .

Hmm, I'm really tired but want to help you out. So I'm sorry if it's not so detailed. There's nothing I can do for you rather than just giving my opinions and let you to do it

I managed to build a quite good social circle, via my church and joining competitions. Any competitions, speech, piano, stand up, anything. Most people I met on these competitions are quite exceptional, they have talents, they got good social skills, and good connections. So once you know of them , the rest are much easier. I just invite them to a night out and tell them to bring friends. That's how it just spread.

Hope this helps,

Your best pal,

Steven

work on your social skills talk to everyone..talk to the cashier.. go to star bucks...and talk to girls tehre..I met two girls at star bucks yesterday

Write down a list of your closest friends.

Choose 2 your closest with.(If you only have 2, thats cool)

Reel them into the game, every man wants to know how its played.

Commit to having a better life.


Thats what i did, couldn't have worked better.

Because of that, i had the best senior year i could ask for. Hope this helps.


-Redkid/Evolution

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Building your own social proof starts with yourself. For me, it started while I was in college. I was an electrical engineering major, which, if anyone is an engineer around here, knows that the engineering campus is an extremely target deficient area. It's hard to develop social proof when you're surrounded by Comp-Sci guys in trenchcoats who play world of warcraft all day. Being that all my classes were there, and the classes took a lot of free time up, I chose to focus on paying my dues and building for the future. Just like how a crappy baseball team stockpiles 1st round picks year after year after year, until sooner or later they got the talent to compete with the heavy hitters. I focused on studying PUA tactics, working out, eating healthy, school, building my male and female friendships, until I graduated. Today, I have the confidence which is critical in the development of any aspiring PUA. My career is more than I ever hoped it would be. The money is great, I feel great, and I'm pretty much the center of my social circle.

And the funny thing is, all the binge drinking retards who got laid all through college by cornering chicks in a bar arent anymore. The guys who pay their dues, learn the system and grow wise are the ones who do. Don't conform. Be you, and the sky will be the limit for you.

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that was deep man .. great advise.

Excellent post. It sounds like you applied the delayment of gratification principle, and it works, always.

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