alrighty ive posted b4 on the routine but now past that just trying to figure out where im at in her point of view. She called me 2day cuz she was dealing with her drunk friends and she wanted someone 2 talk 2, everything went well. then she send me txt saying how shes coming home to an empty apartment, and i jokingly said somethin about the boogyman mite come get her and shes like if u dont stop, ur gonna havta make me come over and protect me. Long story short she came over watched a movie, but pretty much talked and got 2 know each other the entire time. I walked her to her car and hesistated too much for the kiss and just ended up hugging her. Do u guys think this girl would be saying this stuff to a "friend'"? Also, she talked about this guy, but Im not sure if hes in the friend zone with her, i kno they aint breakfast 2gether and all that and im sure she wouldve said something bout him being a bf? anyways, im just looking for help, cuz i dont wanna get clowned on again

Obviously I don't know everything about the situation, but if that's all there is to it, then she definitely wants you as much more than a friend. That text message is femspeak for "come over and fuck me now"

Talking about guys to a guy is a test. Take it from me, I'm a girl and I've done it many times. She wants to see if you just think of her as a friend. At the same time she's showing you that she has other prospects aside from you.

Desperate, how does a guy pass the test with you?

Well i guess to fill in some of the blanks that could be helpful. she got out of 3 year relationship bout 3 or 4 months ago, so im still kinda figuring out whether she wants to be in a relationship or not. But im pretty sure shes over that particular stage of being single all the time. Anyways we only hung out once outside of school and we talk a lot in and outside a class, and things just clicked. Im usually a shy guy and nervous as hell around girls like her, but I was so comfortable and talkative. Shes def a 10, and Im a big fball player type of guy and not 2 bad looking but i saw her pastt bf and I def look as good if not better than what he does

The way I see it, it's not a "shit test", it's a way for a girl to find out if a guy likes her "that way". We can't read you guys too well - everyone says guys are only into sex, but sometimes it takes you so long to make your intentions known that we get confused.

So basically what I do, if I have trouble figuring out what a guy wants, is mention some other male friend of mine without going into too much detail. I guess what I'm looking for is some sign of jealousy or displeasure or at least curiosity. Now I'm not saying bigdawg65 should go ahead and give her that, as he might prefer to stay in control and just keep her guessing. All I'm saying is that I believe it's a sign that she is into him.

Desperate, You hit it right on the head. We hung out last nite, had a great time, stayed up late in bed just cuddling and talking. We had some serious make out sessions but we decided we shouldnt fuck cuz it might rush things 2 fast and just take things nice and slow. Thanks everybody! Look for my posts in the lay reports when that time comes lol