I went out with this really cool HB8 (MILF, bisexual, a lawyer, pilot's license, raced cars etc.) 3 times now.

First time we had good conversation, and at the end she looked a bit like expecting me to kiss or kino her. I held back, helped her into her car and waved her home. Then I called her while driving and we had a great chat.

Was not touching her much a bad move? (she never initiated any kino). My teasing and holding back on the first date tended to work in the past, and got the girl horny to see me again.

Second date: really interesting convo about her, her sexual preferences, what turns her on, how she got into threesomes etc. I did some DHV saying I won't settle for anything less than a woman who understands that monogamy doesn't work (HB8 does get it).
I did light kino throughout our time together etc. She didn't move away or act uncomfortable, but never reciprocated my kino or initiated her own. Usually, with me, women do that - they initiate, and quite visibly.
As a close, I kino rewarded her by playing with her hair when she said something I liked, then I pulled her close and kissed her. She didn't act surprised or anything bad, she kissed me back, but didn't move her hands at all, nor escalated in any way.

Not sure what to do here?

The last time we met, I also did light kino, then when she said something with an accent of her that I love, I pulled her close and told her that that accent is "so fucking sexy" (she doesn't have a problem with the word "fuck"). This time, she pulled back from the hug and I let her go. The night continued fine, she laughed at my jokes, smiled often, told me about her last BF, other intimate details, and displayed IOIs.
However, at the end when she dropped me off, she didn't stop the engine, nor took off her seatbelt. She thanked me for the great time, said it was her turn to take me out and she'll take me bowling and racing. I got the hint, kissed her on the cheek, said good night, and left.

This is what I don't get: a woman who doesn't reciprocate Kino, de-escalates it (cheek kiss instead of mouth kiss the previous date), but nevertheless talks flirty, seems interested, and makes future plans.

Help?

your situation is pretty odd to me..

you should hold hands..seriously..it should tell you alot if she resists or complies with the whole HH thing

it is an odd situation, but if i didnt know better...id say she wants an LTR. if ur sure she doesnt, then you gotta take charge. next date, run a k-c and give her a hardcore make out session dude. then u'll know whats up. you got it bro!

Hey guys, thanks for the replies. HH would've been a good idea.

Update: yesterday while we were IM'ing and I hinted that she's be great to fool around with during the morning after, she wrote:
I'll chalk it as her not being interested :(

What are you TALKING about? She says she AGREES. It sounds to me like she wants you to quit tiptoeing around and get alpha on her. Next time you two are together, ask her to come back to your place. No bullshit pretenses about a movie. If she asks why, say something along the lines of "you know why."/"would you like me to draw you a picture?"

The way I see it, she's in charge right now. She's going to get bored of you and throw you in the friend zone unless you break out and take charge. And the best way to do that is take her to bed. If she refuses... so what? There's a chance she'll say no if you take a bold approach, but there's NO chance that you'll full close if you stay on the road you're on.

Nothing to lose, everything to gain man.

IMO she needs a man. You are not being alpha/confident enough with her.

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