understanding conversation:
in order to have good conversational skills and good conversational skills with women you have to understand the following:

1) if you get down to the basics of it we communicate is in order to give or recieve.

when we give, we give:
-information
-an opinion
-help
-a tangable object
-acknowledgement

to recieve, we:
-ask questions
-ask for help
-ask for a tangable object
-asking for recognition

2) good communicators get out and learn alot. they are full of knowledge. this knowledge is implanted in there memory and is brought out in a conversation when something alludes their mind to it. we mix and mash our memeries and use our imagination to build onto them. it becomes a "routine" of conversation. whether we tell the same stories, give the same opinions, or ask the same questions in certain situations it's a routine. you can't be thinking about anything else but the topic of conversation during an interaction, because our words express our thoughts.

ex.

-if your thinking "how can i impress this person" the only thing you will be able to think of to say is "how can i impress you?"
-if you think "i want to talk to this person but i don't know what to say" the best thing you will be able to think of to say is "i want to talk to you but i don't know what to say"
-if you think to hard about how to attract a girl the only way for you to get a good flowing conversation would be to talk about 'how to attract girls'.

so instead of trying to think of what attracts a women develope routines that sub-communicate those tactics.

3) the topic people love talking about most is themselves so ask questions and listen. the best communicater simply listens. don't act like you're listening, actually listen, mold your brain to the topic of conversation even if it bores you. if someone is constently bringing up topics that bore you then you probably won't get along with that person anyways.