aite i've been hooking up with this girl for a while now, we both confessed feelings for each other and we started dating, been like 2 weeks, now yesterday.... she came back from a different state after being there for 2 days with her friends, so the same day she flew in i asked her to chill and she couldn't cuz she was pretty far away takin some classes, now she called me after and told me that she would be home around 7, but when i call her like around 7:30 she tells me she is gonna hang out with her friends instead of go home,( i dun mind her hanging out with friends but the things is, is that she didn't tell me before so i waited like an idiot for her to come...) now lately i feel she is been trying to be a little distant from me, i sometimes feel that way during txting or when we are on the phone but not when we are together..... when we are together, she is always like next to me or we are holding each others hands or we are cuddling, or jus making out in front of her friends,

that same day when i called her she told me she will call me back in 2 mins, like 40mins passed and i decide to call her and she tells me she was just about to call me.....

(before she left) one time while i was waiting for the bus to go to work, she told her friends that she will meet them in the pizzeria so me and her could be alone....

now another thing is that usually i set up the dates, she never really like wants me to come, but so far eveytime she asked me i had to give her like little hints before hand so that she would invite me to come hang out...... but mostly its been me who sets up the date..... maybe a couple of times she asked me to come to like a cafe after school and thats it.

earlier today i txt her what she is doing later this week and she said she wants to go to the autoshow, and i replied with "you read my mind", and all she replied in the txt msg was "lol"

so any advice guys? i am really confused, it feels like im trying to make this work between us but she isn't.... any advice would be great

Basically sounds like you are giving her all your attention when she wants it, and not making her work for it. If a woman doesn't feel like she has earned it, she's not going to care about it. True for men too, both genders have to earn things to appreciate them. Stop being the follower, start leading. Don't wait for her to call you, go out and do something; when she calls you later then invite her to join. If you want to be serious about her, even though it's only been a couple of weeks, try surprising her, something that she'll tell her friends about. If you can get their approval too, that will help the relationship out a lot. Look up some of the threads about being the Alpha male in the relationship, because it seems to me that is what you're lacking. Good luck to you. Shalom.

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alrite so what kind of surprises can i do? cuz im not that good with em and i dont have a lot of money that i could spend. now last week she wanted me going to the autoshow in ny and then upstate with her and her friends for a weekend this week...
Now a friend of mine suggested i do one of the 2 things:

1. dont txt/call her at all, if she wants to be with you then she will call you, if she wants you to come with her then she will ask you, if she doesn't txt/call you this whole week, even though she said she wants you to come with her, then you should just forget about her


2. txt her like crazy the next day, literelly atleast 5 txt msgs every 5 mins, then dont txt her at all until you start school which is like 4 days from now( which is when school starts for us again cuz of spring break), if she calls jus dont pick up or dun answer any of her txt msgs, when she asks you what happened, jus say that you were away at a college party upstate and forgot ur phone at home.



now should i do one of those? cuz if i do option 2 then there is no chance that im gonna be able to go upstate with her over the weekend....

Any other advice would also be much appreciatted

I could tell you all kinds of surprises you could do for her, but mostly you need to do something she hasn't experienced. And no, don't avoid her calls to try and make her jealous. That's what girls (in my experience) will take to mean as you two are "growing apart". Also keep in mind that she's going to need her space to do her own thing. It sounds like she'll still in the just hooking up with you stage, so you've got to build more attraction with her. Best way is to be the guy she's never had, which is why I suggest surprising her somehow with something nice. Get her some flowers and take her dancing or something. Don't push for being physical after you do your surprise though, because she'll begin to associate everything you do with that, meaning she'll think all you care about is hooking up. But don't tell her you went to a party and forgot your phone. No one forgets their phone when they go to a party. That'd be lame, in my opinion. Shalom.

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