ok so i met this girl last week at a party, got her number and we've been texting on and off since. she doesnt seem like shes putting much into her texts back to me which is odd because they are fun and unique and not so much "interview" like.
i want to date this girl and im trying to set up a fun day two. im 16 and wondering where are some good day 2 places and should i invite others to join?

i tried some small negs. i dont think they are grabbing her attention so much as she seems passive in her text messages back to me.


heres some of the most recent texts (i came up with the nickname stranger and gave it to her because she was passive also in previous texts):


me:hey stranger. you just popped into my head so hi....now please stay outta there.
her:Hey il stay out of ur head
me:Haha ok PLEASE do so....O yeah and im on break now!
her:Lucky. Im on break after tmrw lol
me:Girl im so 3008 u so 2000 late
her:I dnt care
me:Aw. Ur supposed to be mad about that. Ive never gotten that reaction b4
her:Theres a first 4 everythn
me:Hahah. Ur diffrent from most girls....i like that
her:Lol


Im stuck after she said Lol. I was expecting something more like "o really? how so? or something on that road) i need some help from this point.
i need your help PLEASE

In my opinion she doesnt look really attracted to you. IF her responses are all the time like those I would freeze out.

I also think if you start thinking about that message convo between you two, you can see that you were a bit needy.

Or is that her ordinary way to answer also in real life?

it looks like shes not into you man
maybe its time to find someone new?

i agree with waewae here

waewae, yeah i see what you mean with my messages seeming a bit needy but also in real life she acted like that somewhat also. she was clingy to her freinds and didnt dance with anyone even when i asked her as she responded "noone is dancing, when people start dancing i will" so im confused and also how should i freeze out? how long?

Dont do too much negging by text, it's hard to judge humor in text form.

Secondly, by using a neg as a response to a girl responding halfheartedly seems extremely needy. It's almost like you're insulting her because she's not acting interested in you, which (if it were the case) would be kind of pathetic.

Best time to neg is... right after opening (because it establishes a sort of unpredictability and funniness), or after she's expressed interest in you, you've reciprocated, and then you toss in a neg to lower her value a bit... keep her guessing a little.

Still a neg should be MAINLY funny, not insulting. Which is why delivery is very important. Dont do it in txt, do it in word.

You've done enough 'cheeky'... now get a bit serious with her. Talk like a man. Don't go into the boring questions, but start talking straight... ask her where she wants to go for a vacation, carribean or medditerranean. Ask her for advice about a crazy situation. Talk calmly, gentlemanly for a bit. Then once she stars being more interested in you, use the negs to keep her on her feet.

Girls aren't attracted to cheeky clowns. They're attracted to strong, challenging, funny, gentlemen. Part of being funny and challenging is the occasional humorous insult (neg) but it's not the staple. Be more gentlemanly, wait until you're in a conversation for a bit, try to draw it toward romantic topics, then once she starts displaying a bit of interest, reciprocate for a while, then neg her to keep her guessing, but make sure the neg is mainly funny and definitely unexpected.

I had a fun time lastnight.

This cute, very nice personality, HB8 is kinda flirting around with me. She's definitely into me, and I'm being charming, polite, nice, gentlemanly, funny, but also AMOGing the guys around. Definitely running well. She's comparing me to movie stars, I compliment her a little. She compliments her own style, and just to be a bit unpredictable, I'm like "You're not stylish, you look like you shoplift in Primark" (a local super cheap clothes store) with a perfect deadpan face. She's totally devastated for a few seconds then my smile gives it away that I was completely joking. It leaves her having a good time, not being able to predict you, and it makes the people around you enjoy your company. And it also jabs her a bit, so she doesn't feel too self-important. Negs are fun. Not insults.

i disgree with solo.

i'm 16 too and extremely good with text game, i've had a girl ask me out by text before after only an hour and i'd only met her in a cafe for 3 mins max.

when i neg in text, i always put afterwards, don't put lol, girls don't really like it when boys do that for some reason as they think of it as the boys are telling them to laugh and it makes them think your trying to be funny, when neg's arn't meant to make them laugh, but smile, so if you put after, it shows your just being cheeky and amusing which they'll like a whole lot

PM me if you ever want more personal help etc :]

-teen

ok i havent talked to her in two days and i want to invite her to the movies with my other friends (boys and girls) but I dont no how i should ask/ even get her to say yes. Since ive negged a bit i dont know what i should say to reinitiate a conversation.
should i ask her opinion on something? should i just say hey?..

i'd say "hey, just thought of you again x, its getting really annoying . what i was thinkin was that you should come to the movies, meet some friends, have a good time. we're seein *blah*, i'll meet you at *blah* at blah*"

it shows your assertive and that you think she's kl enough to meet your friends. and the best bit of it is that the text starts positive as you were thinkin of her, but then you shut it down straight after with a minor neg but lettin her no you don't actually mind it by puttin the

":P" is the most valuable thing to me in text game, it can make the harshest of neg's seem innocent and playful

-teen

wouldnt she think its wierd for me to be thinking of her AGAIN

dangg

I both agree and disagree with you, Teen.

Putting a smiley after a neg, def. a good idea. I like rather than But all in all using negs a lot in text as a NEG... a put down isn't too good an idea. It can easily be misunderstood, and it should never be used AFTER a girl has expressed DISINTEREST as it conveys desperation.

To ask her to the movies. I'd be just like "Yo, I have the most awesome thing to show you."

let her guess what it is, neg her for stupid guesses, keep her played. Get her to meet you to have it, and at the end of the night, give her something really lame. Like a Baseball Cap. Just have fun dude.

i don't think she'll find it weird. but just to make sure, when you text her after you say "i thought of you again x, its getting really annoying " then add "because....(say something that she will remember when you met, that would remind her of the occasion too. eg if you spilt your drink on her when you met you could say "because some girl just spilt her drink all down her mate" etc)

-teen