Hi there guys,

Ok this is my first post so please forgive me if i am posting this new thread in the wrong section!

Basically im having abit of trouble with a girl that i quite like!

It started ages ago when i would saw her out in bars with her boyfriend, we would be constantly making eye contact! This went on for around 8 or 9 months.

Then the other week she was out but not with her boy friend, i didnt see her in any bars or even in the night club, but it wasnt untill kick out time came when i was outside, i turned round and she approached me asking where she knew me from!

Then the following friday night i saw her in a different night club and caught her looking at me again, so i decided to do something about it! So i walked up to her but at a slight angle and she came straight up to me and asked how i was etc.

Anyway after the short convo i smiled at her and held out my hand for her to take so we could start dancing together, later we exchanged numbers etc.

I SMS txt her and we Facebooked eachother and arranged to meet up, she was texting me constantly, sometimes a second time without me relpying straight away.

The day came to take her out and i took her to this really nice yet expensive bar in town where i knew there wouldnt be any chavs etc. We got on quite well although i did find it hard to game her for some reason and i did find myself sitting there on the odd occasion thinking "shit what do i talk about next?" But all was well and i made an effort to initiate kino to build comfort etc.

We sat talking for about an hour and a half then the lights came on in the bar as they were closing, so we left.

On the way back i suggested we go back to mine and watch a film which she seemed quite keen to do!

We lay there on my bed while the film was playing talking, and just general banter and we got onto the conversation of being ticklish, so i ended up tickling her, and well you can sort of see where it leads to! lol.

After the 2.5 hour marrathon and after whe had lay there having a cuddle, i took her home as she had work early the next morning.

Next day everything seemed fine and she asked me to come see her at work, so i did but late in the after noon and i actually found it hard to talk to her, i felt sort of shy, although i was very tierd at the time and hadent eaten anything all day due to running around posting things off and collecting documents for work, so blood sugars would have been low.

Since then she has been quite distant and doesnt really answer txt messages properly, they even seems to close the conversation abit.

So i left it, i then txt her on saturday night saying, "Your in so much trouble, x", which i didnt get a reply from. I thought it may have been because she was out with friends in another town.

The next day she replied with something unrelated to the txt i sent her, she said "she feels hung over and how crap it was that she had to work".

I didnt reply untill last night when i just thought F*** it im going to she how she reacts to this, and asked if she fancied grabbing some lunch or dinner this week?

She seemed keen with it at first but said she will let me know with regards to when.

She then lead on to say she was saving herself for next weekend as its easter and she will probably see me out, so i replied saying "Yeah maybe", which she then replied with "Oh i will x".

Since that txt i have left it and havent replied.

She has recently come out of a long term relationship back in febuary, so i dont know if the lenght of time between then and now would be enough for her to get back on the availible scene?

She is 18 and im 21.

What to you guys think? sorry about the long field report!

Alex

Alex, first off. You'll get a lot more responses if you could shorten your question next time. ABout 1/4 or less than you wrote will do nicely.

I see this is your first post, so I'd suggest you cruise this site and learn as much as you can. Your's is a very common situation. Here's my assessment. You where able to build some attraction with this girl, she tried you on for size, probably found you sort of average and took a pass.

No big deal at all. First off, you did well to land her. So you got something going on good there. It's the second phase that needs work.

If I was in your shoes I'd let her go for right now and re-group. Think to yourself,, how boring did you allow things to get? You probably seemed like a pretty exciting guy to her at first, when did that change?

You have to figure out ways to maintain that level of intensity, of when you first met, throughout the relationship. It always has to be there. And it doesn't happen by accident. Look into the "natural" approach. Build value as an alpha player. Learn seduction techniques and ways to keep the conversation interesting.

In the end,, maitaining a good relationship is really the same thing as getting her to be your girlfriend.

I'd suggest going through the web site and reading as much as you can. Because the answer to your question really could fill a book,, or two,, or three.

Just take a break from her and hit her up again later with a better strategy.

Good luck

i agree with the above poster, a break to sorta get a start over pass and to learn some more technique is great, but make sure you practice what you read! and dont fret over her, let time work it out and when you feel you can take her on again then obviously your confidence has grown enough to allow yourself to.

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-moony

Cheers for the advice guys!

And yeah i agree maybe my first post was a little to long! lol

I have taken a step back as you guys have said and since she hasnt heard from me for a while she is now writing things on my facebook wall about next weekend.

So i think a bit of self disqualification could be in order! And 1 step forward 2 steps back! lol

Went out sarging last night but the bars were just full of guys and girls of about the 5 rating, but in the night club was a differennt matter! i sarged this girl with a palm reading, used a few more convo fillers and number closed quite easily, as she was the one who suggested i take her number down! lol Real confidence boost!

So going back, i will continue to take a chill pill and take a step back from her, then make her work to earn me back using fresh game!

As you say guys i got to keep a spark there and not let things get boring, which i think i may have done because i bottled it and couldnt game her properly!

Alex