Im dating a very timid girl right now! we finaly had sex last night but she just seemed way to timid and shy....like she was holding back. The sex was ok....but she had no input and it was bland and boring after 10 mins I called it quits haha I want to know how to bring her walls down so that she is not so timid and she can just let loose? She is very cuddly but I feel like she has very very low self self esteem! she seems like she is holding back because she doesnt want to feel stupid or make a fool of her self?

P.s she is a beautiful women and I remind her of this when she gets down on her self....I tell her that she is sexy, has soft skin ect....but she just seems to feel ugly or somthing? I felt like she spent more time thinking about messing up then just enjoying the sex?

If the sex was bland and boring and she had no input I'd be worried. That's not too good. The thing I'd be concerned about is that if she doesn't enjoy it,,,, she's not going to want to do it. WOuld you? Me neither.

I think you're doing the right thing to try and figure it out. Obviously,, you need to find a way to get her to really like it.

Now that is one huge area. It could be so many things. She could be gay, she may have a medical condition. She may have had a traumatic experience in the past. Keep that in mind.

But in this case, let's just work from the assumption that she's new to it and a little shaky. Check your technique. Men need all of 5 minutes, if that, to be ready for sex. WOmen,, I'd say a half hour is a good mark. A half hour to get her stimulated and up to your level. Remember, that's for almost any woman. They're differant than us.

I won't tell you all the things that make women hot because you proably know them. So use them and get her reall hot. That's going to promote a good sexual encounter. And rememer, your goal is to make her have an orgasm. That has to happen. ANd keep in mind,,, there are differant roads to that goal for differant women. So find out what works for you lady.

Now on the other hand she may be very closed to sex. So bring the whole thing out of the closet for her. DO things to stimulate her everyday. Kiss her neck. Carress her. Play with her hair. Get her a little hot then don't follow through. Don't put presure on her. Keep it fun. Wisper dirty things in her ear on the bus.

Build her up slowly. Ultimately imagine your first time in swimming in the pool. You where probably a bit scared and people putting presure on you didn't help.

Ayways,,, that's just some stuff to consider.

ye man I honestly dont know....she doesnt talk about how she feels, she doesnt tell me what she likes....ye ok the sex was bland but that was not my fault haha you know what I mean? mabey she thought it was but I tried to get her to talk and tell me what she likes you know?

She is a shy girl, and she has "daddy issues" a.k.a she doesnt get along with her father....which makes me kinda think she just doesnt know how to have a normal relationship with a guy....