Hi

I am currently really frustrated because i have realized my principle mistake/ problem when picking up girls is making the move, i am happy approaching and building comfort/ attraction to the point where they are giving me many ioi's for example compliments, excessive hugging, snuggling into me etc. But then after that i never seem to make the move, I have a feeling that it may be a fear of rejection but could also be that i am always looking for the perfect time to make the move but it never comes. Everytime i go out i say i will definitely make the move if i get into the ioi situation again, but always end up not doing it again and wake up in the morning hugely regretting it. Anyone else have/had this problem? any advice?

Thanks

Seems to me like you are having issues with pulling the trigger. This often happens when the person feels as though they have something to lose, which eventually makes them categorized into the 'Friend Zone'. I have personally seen this so many times with my friends. They are great talkers, and good at making the girl feel comfortable...but when it comes to kiss close they are deer in headlights.

I used to have this issue a while back, when I thought oh shit what if she says no... what if this and what if that!!! If you hit this point, it means you are thinking too much and aren't looking for signs that she is ready to be kissed. My friend, you need to just build up the courage and just do it. Follow the 3 second rule... if you and the girl can look into each others eyes for 3 seconds... just go for the kiss. Almost always, no matter what the place, no matter how long you know the girl, they will most definitely kiss back. Just remember to pull out of the kiss before she does.

Good Luck!!!

Thanks for that mate good advice, any other advice as well to help me?