I've been keeping in touch with this girl for about 8 months and its long distance sorta thing, and the thing is i actually like her, we're finally seeing each other more often next month and so forth but last night she said this:::

Her: i need space to find out how much you mean to me"....

Me: that sounds like a great idea, but i might not be here when your done thinking it through

Her: "but i'd wait for you if you needed space cause i love you blah blah blah..."

So i gave her space its been 2 days now i havn't talked to her


what does that mean when i already do give her space that she needs and shes the one to always initiate the conversations with me first? she was being kinda bitchy before she said that too.

Sounds like bullshit to me. Isn't a LDR by definition space?

ANyways,,, I'll bet you'll get plenty of good advice here, but one thing this is an indication of, is that whatever you are doing now is not working. So I wouldn't be too hesitant to make a change. Clearly, you're going down the wrong road.

She's either lost interest/attraction to you or someone else has entered the picture.

Your play has got to be a cool confident one that adds value to you and not make you look like an AFC. What would Brad Pitt say? I'd assume he'd say something that makes her sound like she is the needier person and that he's just fine, because he is always fine.

"You need more space? So what's the problem? Just take it. I'm totally cool with that. "smile" Why do we even need to talk about it?" Saying it like you're totally bored by the whole concept and she's overly dramatic.

That vibe will work if it is real for you. ANd if you can make it real,, it'll help you move on if the need arises.

There certainly is more than one tactic here. You could even act like she just layed the Golden Egg right in your lap. "More space,, that's exactly what I was thinking myself!!! This is gonna be even more awesome now!".

Put her back in the position that she's asking for more and qualifying herself. But to do that, you have to have a lot of charm and natural confidence. It really could be just a test. To see who's gonna be runing stuff in the future.

Good luck

damn dude you sound dead on whats going on here... im doin everythin i can do be unpredictable and keep up the attraction, but its gotten to the point of "i love you" crap, and i usually avoid shit like that to not come over as a pussy whipped love sick puppy and she might think im not putting enough into making the relationship work as much as she tries....


like she asks me things about what im doing, my life blah blah blah and i usually brush it off and dont ask her much about hers, only sometimes and im like "meh"

and she said i expect too much, so i should lighten up about that, maybe shes giving me space to think over what im doing wrong?


Just have a bad experience with showing affection to girls in the past, which made me turn into a complete wussy

Go get laid, or find a new chick or two to hangout with. Understand its her lose if she doesnt wanna kick it with you. Nightrider's right, you have to not give a shit... No, like really, not-give-a-shit.

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Hey dude,, I noticed one thing you said about her asking this and asking that. It almost sounds like she is directing the conversation down the boring path. Don't let her run that. Step up, even on the phone. Take charge. Keep things fun and interesting. And when you run out of material... SHit... gotta go.

Girls will lead the conversation down shitty boring lines,,, it's up to us to turn those around or else we'll be associated with that boredom. She's start talking about her parking ticket,,, you change the chanel and start talking about the crazy shit you guys did under the bridge last month. Whatever.

Everytime you talk to her, you got to leave her with a good feeling. Everytime.

Good luck.

if she does contact me just like once and/or tells me theres another guy in the picture, what should i say that would be considered "nexting"?

"This space from each other was just awesome, thanks alot, your right you weren't really worth it after all, im lookin forward to movin on to cooler and better girls, cause clearly you didn't make the cut"


or is that too harsh

or should i mention if shes Interested in someone else/ and is just keeping me around to see if the chumps actually "worth it"

without coming off as insecure, or should i avoid it altogether?

Either of those and you come off as reactive. Best bet is to just chill, let her do her thing.

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I didnt read the other comments, but from experiance it means that she wants to test the field, She wants to date other guys

i advise you to do the same, go out there build up your social value again, be prepared for her not to be coming back, otherwise its going to destroy you if she doesn't,

its the same thing as saying "lets take a break" aka " i want to see if i can do better"

Best of luck

-Dre

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